I have tried to stay offline this month and really focus on my marriage and my family.
We have had so many problems with my teens and my health.
Today we went for a very nice lunch date with friends. We came back to my house and had the news on while we conversed. The announcer mentioned something abouts the National Gaurds. My H actually laughs and says(It scares me to think of OW defending this country) well my stomach just sunk, I thought I would lose my lunch. Our frinds did not say a word. (They know)
I blew when they left, and he can't understand why! I get so tired of this, Will I have to live with this forever?

Hi cherise,
I'm sorry you are not feeling well and oh boy, don't we know what a handful teenagers can be. I wish you God's best in your situation. Add to this a husband's thoughtless remark in front of company. <<<<<HUGS>>>>><p>Was he ever remorseful for his comment? Maybe he couldn't understand your being upset because he actually meant it to be an insult to OW? That's what it sounded like to me?<p>Maybe he needs to know that her name should not ever be mentioned in your presence from now on!?

Thanks beenthere for replying to me.
Things have just been going so badly lately. I rushed home early tonight in hopes of seeing H, but, he left an hour early for work, again. No way to check up, Secure facility, as he well knows. Last A was with co-worker. With the pressures here at home who could blame him. No, that isn't exactly true, I would. I am going through all this too. And, once again, I don't think he will be, or is, here for me as I am and have always been for him.
Kind of like, when the going gets tough, the tough get going... straight to the arms of someone else. I hate to accuse him, I just see so many signs of what was before... his total seemingly lack of care for my feelings, his disinterest, his accusing me of trying to control everything... it is all back.

Well miss missy,
You are just going to have to make up your mind and be determined NOT to lose any more sleep over this. Next time you guys have a chance to talk, you can bring things up and discuss your feelings in a calm business-like manner.<p>It would be nice if he left you a nice little note or something since he wasn't going to be there to see you before he left. Sometimes men just don't think of those things. I don't talk to my husband while he is at work either so you are not alone in that.<p>You are not to blame so please don't be down on yourself. You are just not feeling well and the kids are acting like they have lost their minds (just guessing and I know that my teenager DID lose his mind at age 14), so with this recent trigger, you are just in a funk.<p>You'll snap out of it. Could be hormones too. Do something nice for yourself. Get yourself a treat or take a nice hot bath. That's what I like to do. I heard Dr.Phil on Oprah show say that "Sometimes we have to give ourselves what we are not getting from others." Isn't that good? Consider yourself hugged. <3<3<3

I prescribe that you give yourself lots of hugs and tell yourself that you love you and write down at least 300 good qualities or talents that you have! That should keep you busy and distracted until your husband is ready to act right!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]