Almost 2 years ago my husband of 11 years slept with my newly discovered half sister. I had only known her about 5 years. He came clean & we have worked things out. However...she denied the whole thing & brought my father into the picture by telling him my husband was coming on to her. This was before i found out the whole truth. Anyways, i have nothing to do with her anymore since she outright told me she wants nothing to do with me. Our family was very close & my father refuses to put any blame on her for the despicable act. Yet he continues to blame my husband for the whole thing, needless to say my father & I do not have the same close relationship we used to have. This hurts me as I feel i am suffering for her wrong doing. She continues to play the role of a "poor pathetic" loser to my father, taking him for his money..etc. He's so absorbed in her & her poor little problems he doesn't realize he is hurting me badly. Shouldn't she have suffered any reprecussions for her part in it? I feel he has rewarded her, as he has built her a new house &continues to give her money. I'M SO SICK OF IT!

I'm sorry for the pain and frustration you are feeling at this time. I think it's good that your H 'came clean' and was honest with you. <p>As far as your half sister goes, she's got a lot more problems than you do, I don't know all the details, but if she was unknown to you for years, she may have felt outside the family all that time, or if she herself didn't know about her other family, she may have suffered in a broken and/or dysfunctional family during that time. <p>For her to go after your H and then work to take all your F's attention due to this ridiculous effort at feeling wanted by the men in your life, is just sad and pathetic. <p>I am not trying to excuse what she's done at all. What I am saying is that you have to get past the anger. Your half sister is one sad character and she will be found out sooner or later. Your father may also be acting out some feelings of remorse for whatever part (or no part) he played in her upbringing and now be trying to be the sympathetic 'there-for-you-guy' that he wasn't before. <p>They deserve each other at this point...and let them work it all out. I doubt very much it will last indefinitely, your half sister will do something else and be discovered to be a very messed up girl. <p>Meantime, you be good, do right, work to live your life with no regrets, and your reward will ultimately be a peace of mind and self respect your half sister can only dream of., <p>God Bless,
Lisa

Ahhhhhh Miss J-don't you just love people who can stab you in the back tiem and again?<p>My H and ex best friend had an almsot 2 year A. H told me himself-saying she had contacted him and he didn't want things to start up again. They were pretty on and off the entire length of the A from what he says.<p>Her H then found out and of course the crap hit the fan so to speak.<p>Before the A was revealed the OW was evidently having a hard time liking herself and the actions she had taken and was not being a very nice person at home. Her H knew something was up but not what it was. I guess she finally told him my H had made a pass at her. He of course wanted to confront my H but she asked her H not to saying maybe she over reacted to soemthing that wasn't all that. <p>Then a mutual friend-although more their friend than ours-wanted my H to help out with their baseball team pitchers. The OWH of course did not awnt my H around so he tells this other guy that my H made a pass at the OW.<p>I was and still am livid. It didn't bother her a bit to blame my H for the entire A. She has come to me and apologized numerous times. She has said how sorry she is. How she screwed up. And then in the same breath, how much she hates my H, how he didn't treat her very well, how he pursued her............<p>It takes two to tangle. Anyone who can not see that or become suspicious when given a funky story doesn't deserve your friendhsip.<p>I am sorry that your father is treating your H this way. I know first hand how that hurts. But you and your H need and have each toher. Let the sister have dad-and even if he takes it to his grave he will know one day that she wasn't all she made herself out to be.<p>I pray for strength for you and your H-chins up [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi Miss J,<p>For the past couple of hours I keep reading your post. I'm shocked about what's going on in your life right now and so sorry that you're having to suffer this.<p>I'd comtemplate going straight to Plan B because the borders of acceptable behaviour have clearly been abused. Incest is just not acceptable. Period. An affair is devastating to the marriage but incest devastates the family as well.<p>I'm at a loss for words. Keep posting, I need to go find my tongue <p>- Freddy