I haven't posted for a few weeks. It's seems like when I am down I come here to vent and sympathize with others. I have to say that we are progressing by the book! It is amazing to me how closely our timeline is following the ones in Dr. Harley’s books! Last contact was 9/11/01 and we are on our way to a real recovery! I know that we have a long way to go, but my WH is out of the fog and we are progressing! The best part is that he is finally happy! There were several weeks when he wanted to run back to her, but he was strong enough not to! He knew that he couldn’t if our relationship was going to work out. Such a funny thing because he didn’t want to be with me at all, but knew that he was obligated to try so he did. He still hasn’t expressed any remorse for his actions, but according to Dr. Harley that may come later, or maybe not at all.<p>Like I said, we still have allot to work on, but we moving forward and it’s a great feeling! Absolutely no contact is the key! He tried to work with her after D-day, but it wasn’t until we moved out of state that thing started getting better! He went through terrible withdrawal and at first would have left at any moment if I had told him “I give up.” I never gave up and he is telling me that he loves me, misses me when we are apart and intimacy has returned!<p>D-day was April 16 with him going back and forth between OW and me a few times. He returned home for good on June 19 and final contact was September 11. I hate to be optimistic because I’m so afraid of being hurt again, but I see the light!!!<p>le
