I hope I don't lose total creditability here with the strerotypical guy image and all -- I really am a guy!<p>In last 7 to 8 days, DW has demonstrated increased lusting attitudes & taking the initiative with more affection, like kissing & hugging. The kissing & higging is really good as I have been looking for more affection!
In the last 5 days we have had sex somewhere around 14 times. Our typical routine is once at bedtime & then again in AM before I go to work. Over this period of time she has initiated as soon as I get home from work & then again latter in the evening. We have done it in the den, in the living room & in two different bedrooms. She slept in separate bedroom a couple evenings so we missed that normal (2x's a day) routine. On those occasions we still got in the AM session. But then I responded a couple times on the second go around before sleep on the days we had session after I got home from work, early evening. So we have averaged a little more than 2x's a day. She has shown more affection & just last night offered a strong, "I love you too" when I was telling her "I loved her during" intamacy. She has gotten to the magical "O" in 98% of these sessions. She has vocally expressed pleasure & said it was good after the session in 95% of the time. She most recently said that each time it gets a little better. She said even if she does not reach her goal, it is good.<p>What could be wrong with this picture? I discovered that over this same period of time she has used her assortment of battery operated toys!
With our history & the moods I perceive in my DW, she is in such a state of mind that she is seeking greater & greater excitement & charge. The sexual act has become more an act of physical pleasure, not an expression of love! When she is using a Manual vibrating thing when in the same time period she is having lots of activity with a vibrant man, me -??? This seems to me there may be an issue here?? There may be only a short little hop that to get that extra little charge, she falls for temptation to physical relationship with another guy or even gal. <p>Over the last couple weeks I have talked about my S-anon support group and how this sex addiction is an issue for both of us. She has seemed a little open to getting into 12 step program & I've done a good job of focusing on me & our relationship has been good for about tow weeks now. We have also discussed the idea of trying a period of abstinence as a method to focus on problem; reset the chemical charge reflex thing.<p>Here is my question. Do I bring up the fact that over the last 5 days, when we have been very active, she feels compelled to use the battery toys?! My quandary is will that help to bring a focus on her compulsion and this could be catalyst to help her see this & therefore seek help. Or, will this cause hard feelings, that I'm being invasive & controlling and cause her to go further into denial??<p>Or, do I pretend I don't know & continue to go with the flow?<p>Peace,
HH<p>[ November 11, 2001: Message edited by: Hurrian Hoosier ]<p>[ November 11, 2001: Message edited by: Hurrian Hoosier ]</p>
