OK Guys, here it is and many thanks for all your information. Please note that not every entry knew the ansewers to the questions. <p>This is the result of the OP profile survey posted on D/D,GQ11 and recovery forums.<p>1. Age of O.P
9= 20 to 25yrs 16= 26 to 30yrs
8= 31 to 35yrs 14= 36 to 40yrs
3= 41 to 50yrs<p>2. birth order
5= 1st child 1= 2nd child 3= only
1= 3rd child 2= 5th child<p>3. Education of OP
5= HS drop out 9= HS 15= college & +
1=AA<p>4. How did they meet your spouse?
20= At work 8= bar 4= friends pre A
gym, school, chatroom, online<p>5. Did OP know that spouse was married?
ALL, but one, knew!<p>6. Was there contact between you and OP?
YES, with few execptions<p>7. Parents of OP married or divorced
13 still married 14 divorced <p>8. Was there abuse involved in OP life?
This was hard to get a count but, there was a steady abuse thread in the explainations given. Alcohol, drugs, abusive alcoholic fathers, husbands and boyfriends.
This may explain the "victim theme".<p>9. Other
Rebound, financial problems, job stress, victim mode, need to be rescued, boundryless, low-self-esteme, needs to be "special".<p>Thank you all for doing this survey. I know that for many of you, this only brought up hurts that are painful. I would like to know if you have any new insights through this exercise that have helped or enlightened you. This did help me and I think you so much for your envolvement. <p>Please know that I truly ache for you when I read your stories. I believe that MB is helping me to be a better person, wife and Mother. I know that I cannot change my Daughter, however I have learned here that I don't have to be part of the problem. I know that MY disrespectful Judgements and angry outburts have contributed to the problem. This behaivor has ALL STOPED. <p>Know that I think that many of you are doing Gods work wheather you believe in God or not. I believe that the best of the best is here for those who are up for the chalenge.<p>"People try to justify their behavior by creating a belief system that supports it."

Thanks, Marry,<p>Your project was interesting.<p>FYI, Son is moving to DIL's new state in a few weeks. He's giving up his home and excellent job with no promises from DIL. He feels that this has to be done because obviously, they can't recover if they are in two different states (Duh!), and she won't move back home. Because OM is an old, close friend of DIL who is in the same town, I suspect it will be touch and go for the marriage.<p>Take care, Estes<p>[ November 13, 2001: Message edited by: Estes49 ]</p>

Estes
I truly know how painful this is for you. You son has to do what he can do and I admire him for his dedication. I think of you often.

I believe this supports the thread by Fairydust about the Cosmo. artical

Bump for TTF. Sorry TTF, thought it was Estes that performed the survey. And in addition, it seems this is an OP survey, however, a WS very well could be an OP altho on the opposite side, no?<p>Jo<p>[ April 30, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>