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He came home two weeks ago after being gone for 5 months. He was repentent and wanted to give 100% to our marriage. <p>I took him back with open arms, and a loving and forgiving spirit (only by the grace of God). We were both soooo happy to be together again. So were our daughters (age 13 & 16)and dog.<p>The ow called him after three days and he went to her house to be intimate. Then he called in sick one day at work and spent the day with her. He called that night to say he wouldn't be home because he couldn't get over her.<p>Three hours later, he shows up drunk and tells me he came to tell me he is leaving me. He then passed out in the chair and never went back to her. He said he knew what he needed to do and would be home tonight.He continually said he needs to be home and not "go there" with her.<p>He was even talking about leaving his job (they work together). He was even praying and reading Gods word with me daily. We were getting along so good. But the pull of the affair won him over.<p>Well, one week later, he never came home. He left me a voice mail saying he was going to drink a few beers and would talk to me later. <p>This is the third time in 5 months that he has come home and said "I can't get over her." <p>How long does this go on?<p>How long should I keep letting him back in?<p>Any comments are welcome.

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I think I would plan A for 6 months and then it is time for plan B. I feel he is getting all him cake and eating it to. You have to take care of yourself and your children. Right now the A could be dying and let it die. He is in some thick fog at this time.<p>stay strong

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Thanks for your response. I have been doing plan A for 5 months. I do agree these past two weeks that he was getting his cake and eating it to.<p>I believe the affair is dying also. It is just hard sit here waiting for him to come home. <p>He has not come home now in two days nor has he called. I am worried that maybe he committed suicide but don't want to call him or the ow to see if he is dead or alive.<p>He has been talking of wanting to "go crazy" and wanting to "run away".


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