I've been 'out of commission' for a few days (recovering from minor elective surgery - tubal ligation), and I only saw this on another thread just now:<p>
Topie --
Can I mention something? You say you go to your H with questions from this board. And that he doesn't like to talk about it.<p>Aren't you concerned with these LB'ers? Are you using this forum to bring up issues that you want your H to answer?<p>Since you said you talked to H about it, I assumed that you are in recovery -- guess I'm not sure about that part of your story. But it can't be a good idea to bring up these issues -- especially if you know you're making your H unhappy and that he doesn't want to talk about it. <p>
Yes, my H and I are in recovery (about 6 months now). There's a fine line on some things he will talk about with me. That's not true... he'll talk about everything with me.. IF I ask him. I've already gotten the answers to all of the questions I needed answered months ago.<p>He's thought about coming on this board to share his experiences as a WS (I've told him how much his view is sought after - which you know is the case from people asking you all sorts of things). He also understands how much this board has helped me, and how much I still need it from time to time (I'm slowly breaking away though - I doubt I will ever break away entirely).<p>We both like the idea of helping people if we can. I tend to use the verbal (written on here of course) approach, and he's learning that skill more now. <p>I'm not really asking him these questions to find out for me... I'm asking him to try and help others. The last thing I want to do is to answer for him. If there is a question out on the forum that I think his answer could help someone with, then I'll ask him. I just don't want to put words in his mouth. And he isn't being forced to answer anything. If he doesn't want to answer something, then I let it go.<p>Thank you for pointing out the descrepancies in my posts regarding talking to my H about these issues. I think a lot of my asking him questions from here is also to get him involved in something I'm involved in. <p>Take care,
Karen
