I think my wife is still seeing OM. I havn't confirmed it yet but all indications are there. I am very seriously considering talking to him and insisting he end contact with my wife and break it off for good. If I said absolutely nothing to my wife about this and asked him to do the same would this be a LB?????<p>Maybe I can appeal to the OM's sense of reality. He has a family too. <p>I would really like to strangle the [censored] out of this guy. WHAT WOULD YOU DO???

WW4L<p>Let me just say one thing - been there done that.<p>I had OM actually trying to befriend me, telling me not to give up on my W. Telling me to follow my heart. Calling and emailing me asking how things were going. Telling me that it was over and that nothing ever happened. The whole time he was still carrying on the A - so I found out later. When my W actually decided to come back to me, he tried everything he could to convince her not to.<p>He still calls her friend and tells her when he thinks I've done something, which immediately gets back to my W. <p>We are talking about an OM here. As I was once told (but didn't listen at the time), these are immoral, unethical, cheating, lying people we're talking about. Please don't think that talking to OM is going to accomplish anything - these people don't give a care about you. They are greedy selfish people - they don't care about you or your family. I know. My W's OM has lied and lied and lied again - to me, to his W, and to my W.<p>Please don't try to reason with this man - it won't work. He will use it against you - he will tell your W.<p>I'm sorry about sounding so negative here - it's just that I have been burned badly by talking to OM.

WW4L,<p>Listen to what S&C is saying. He couldn't have hit the nail on the head any harder. I've been there and done that/this too... many many many times. It doesn't and won't accomplish anything. He'll even lie for her that the A is not going on... and then when you find out otherwise... you've been decieved by 2 people.. and yourself.<p>Trust in your gut, its probably right.

Thanks for your input guys. I guess you kind of forget that rational thinking and appealing to ones sense of what is right is completely foolish when your talking about the "Other Person".
I would still like to strangle the [censored] out of him though!<p>WW4L

Well if you want to choke someone out, feel free to choke me out as much as you want. We need you there for your children... <p>But hey... if your protecting yourself and you feel in fear of your life or great bodily harm.......... then follow the laws in your state. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img]