Just got an email from WS. This thread is kind of an extension of those from this weekend (See here )<p>Here's the email.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I really will try to live in the moment this week and see if I can visualize a future for us. Believe me when I say that I know that I should try, that life would be much easier if I felt something, and that it would make things much easier on you. The last thing I want to do is devastate you and strip you of hope for future relationships or of a good life in general. Don't give me that much credit. I so want you to stop hurting, and whle I feel a little selfish for wanting to get on with life; I also feel like I really did stick it out through a significant amount of crap and just because you now want to be better, it may be too late. I just may not get those feelings back and I won't live in loveless marriage. I want you to have closure - all those things, but I don't know if I can give you the kind you want. And I do know what I need emotionally; I never hid that from you, but I don't know if I want that from you. I'll make a list of the things I want that I was missing. We'll see. Talk to you tomorrow. -WS <hr></blockquote><p>I want to tell her not to expect to feel much (if anything) for me and to not base her decision on that lack of feeling, but I've already told her that. I'd like to tell her that I have all these great "strategies" for BUILDING those feelings (MB principles), but I'm pretty sure she'd resist that
approach. <p>Should I respond, should I just let it lie. Any suggestions or comments?<p>Thanks,
K<p>[ November 19, 2001: Message edited by: kevco- ]</p>

kevco-<p>Take it easy. You don't know how much some of us BS's would like to hear even these small positive statements. Sounds like babysteps in the right direction. If you respond back, just be polite, thank her for writing, and that you'll talk to her tomorrow. I wouldn't mention what she is going to talk about in your reply. She probably feels that she is risking a lot by giving you this information. She doesn't want to be hurt or feel neglected again. My feeling is, don't make a big deal out of it. That way, your expectations won't get too high and you won't be pushing her away.<p>HoFS

Kev:<p>I think your W's email is overall good sign. This may be good time to have her fill EN & posibly LB questionaires (Since she is talking about a list). This may in turn open up a whole new area of confiding with your W. She'll be slinging a lot of sh*t in your direction, so it's time for a thick skin. If she feels comfortable talkng to you about this stuff, she may start opening up to you more. Then at least she'll be confiding more with you than OM. Opens up more avenues to depositing in love bank.<p>Keep us posted.