How was the new C? Were you comfortable with him/her? Have you talked about a regular schedule for sessions?<p>Just being a little nosy, as I was wondering how you are doing today.<p>OneDay

Hi!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>She was wonderful, and we will be meeting next Thursday, as well. Our insurance will allow 13 (I think) visits, so I'm beginning weekly...<p>My H came in with me last night (HMO required he did the first time), and we gave a very detailed background together... but next week I begin alone, and he will be included whenever necessary.<p>We're gonna work on my guilt, my feelings being worn on the surface (coming from an abusive background I tended to shut off ALL emotion, and when the whole mid-life crisis began in 1998 I began to feel things, and I mean REALLY FEEL everything!), and on what Radical Honesty means to me, since I tend to spill my guts to everyone whether they want to listen or not... I guess the word is "boundaries"...<p>I am very much looking forward to working on some balance in my life.<p>Thanks for asking!!

hope it helps<p>think I need to go to, I can't seem to shake the lingering saddness. I don't want my STBX back or I don't think so but why can't I let go. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Love you sweetie.

Ah sing,<p>It's still so new to you... it's totally normal and understandable that you should be sad. How well I know! [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Even though I turned around and got involved in a relationship quickly, it did not *replace* the love I had for my ex, nor was it suppose to. This is one thing I've learned over the last year. <p>Gosh, I can't believe it... I've been divorced for a year, and remarried for four months... wow.<p>But anyway, no matter whether you want your ex back or not, you invested 22 years into this man (like I invested 20 years into my ex) and let's face it; no matter what a poop he is being now, you LOVED HIM. That counts for something.<p>Be kind to yourself sing. And yes, if you can get some therapy, it *will* help. I saw my Liz (she was truly amazing)during my divorce, and I swear, she helped me to get through it -- because I **did** love my (then)H so much. I didn't want a divorce, but I had to do it... how many OW could I stand? Not one more -- not one. <p>Sending you love and BIG HUGS,
Sheryl

Thanks sheryl<p>I hate being sad over him. He has treated me so bad for almost 3 yrs now. <p>I think once the holidays are over I will be better. I hate sharing my sons during this time. STBX would had brought them back for Thanksgiving, he hated the thought of me alone, the boys being around people they didn't know OW's family, but I told him the boys thought they were spending the time with him and I had been trying to discuss this with him for a month. I told being alone doesn't bother me (that was one of the reasons he used not to give up OW, wonder if we couldn't work it out, he would be alone)<p>I think I need to stop being so nice to him.<p>Thanks for the good thoughts. same back at you.

Nyneve,<p>I am so glad you liked your C and that you will be seeing her again soon!<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>OneDay<p>
sing,<p>Hugs x 1000.<p>OneDay