Nothing in life is easy I know but what do I do when I spend hours writing a plan B letter and H won't even read it? I handed it to him and he asked what it was. I said it's a letter to your from me. He laid it aside and started watching TV. He went to bed and it's still lying there untouched, unread!!!

TD, sorry it has taken so long for someone to reply to you, I know you must be pulling your hair out.<p>I have no clue what you do. You can't very well shove it down his face.<p>I guess just start doing what the letter says. Then when he asks questions, just say "read the letter".<p>I am so sorry for your pain tonight. Your H is probably expecting something like this and is afraid of what your letter may say.<p><<<<TinyDancer>>>>>
HbH

TD,<p>You got some good advice from HBH, go with it!!!
I too am sorry for your pain this evening, remember that the letter is really for you and you must follow what it says. Once he sees that things are different he will ask questions, are you going to be there to answer them? Protect yourself and what love is remaining for your spouse.<p>Dawn

TinyDancer,<p>I just read your post and want to give you some support here.<p>I know this is a terribly difficult time for you and I know it's not easy being treated like you're not there. This is a very shameful and disrespectful behaviour from your H.<p>Plan B means that you will break the contact to preserve your love in the event that your H wants to commit and work at the relationship. That means either one of you will move out - I'm going to guess that's you. So, once you deliver the Plan B letter do exactly that. <p>If your H is as rude as he has been then he doesn't deserve such a wondeful, caring person as you are.<p>Have courage TinyDancer and take strength from the knowledge that you are not alone [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>- Freddy

I feel your pain, baby. <p>Gave H the EN quiz and he didn't even pick it up. I think your H's curiosity will get the best of him eventually--maybe he wants to read it when you're not around.<p>And if he never does, the letter was good for you to write. It's cathartic sometimes to just verbalize your thoughts and feelings. <p>I left the quiz on the table and won't mention it again. But it's gonna sit there until HE does something with it.<p>Good luck.

TD - forgive me for not knowing, but how did you get to implementing Plan B when you apparently are still under the same roof? Maybe I misunderstand the situation, but Plan B can't be entered without a physical separation already in existance. If this isn't the case, maybe you should grab that letter before he DOES read it because you will not be able to implement the plan.<p>WAT

Thanks for your support everyone and for taking the time to reply. I'm confused most of the time lately. The letter still lies exactly where he left it last nite, unread and not worth his time.<p>WAT to answer your question. My H will not even consider moving out. In fact my H walks around like everything is perfect. I can't move out because in my state it's considered abandonment. Now that the letter's been written and I know in my heart that something has to give, I'm seeking a legal separation which will force him to leave. There is no other way. My lawyer is filing the papers this morning and he'll be served today at work. This gives him 24 hours to vacate and remove his belongings. <p>I plan to be out with my children when he arrives with his sheriff escort. The locks are being changed, the alarm system reprogrammed and I'm here at my computer pretending that none of it is affecting me.

{{{TD}}}
Big hugs of support going out to you. You're a strong woman to take such a big step. You know that God is there for you to hold you up through this. I'm sorry that it's come to this drastic turn for you, but if you are in danger of losing all love for your H, then it is the right decision. Sometimes it takes such drastic measures to get them to wake up. I'm praying that your H doesn't make this too difficult for you and the kids. Please keep us posted.<p>Prayers for peace,
MOM

OK TD, I understand and I offer my support for your plight.<p>Now, back to the Plan B letter. When he's gone, send it to him and don't worry about whether he reads it or not. YOU know what it says and it's mostly for you. Think about it this way: WSs who DO read the Plan B letter likely have no clue about what it says. Even if they understand the text, they likely will twist it all around however they need to to continue to put all blame on their spouse in order to justify their decisions.