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#961103 12/01/01 06:39 PM
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Does anyone know anything about this STD?

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Being a mom now, but also a former health professional, I would advise you to immediately see your gyno and tell about your situation so they can do appropriate tests for you. From what I remember, been out of college clinicals for almost 11 years, that warts on female are near labia and can also be internal too. Never did actually see one b/c I did not work in gyno or l&d. Contagious. <p>Be more worried about if and when you are dx with one. I had the embarassment of having my gyno back home (a doc I knew and worked on his patients in hospital) have to run the battery of tests on me and it is embarassing, but doc was amazingly understanding and kind. Embarassment was all in my head. I understand your depression, but you need to get yourself together as best as you can for your children now. Get counseling and keep seeing doc for meds. Also, there are diseases as I'm sure you know about much worse than warts. AIDS and Hep B can take you away from your kids permanently and you need to take a stand for your health now. I know. Been in survival mode and finally got on meds last month and it is beginning to help. I'm in the middle of much and mire here, so I'm not especially helpful in much advice, except medical info. Get the tests and sleep well when I pray you get the results you are ok. I will pray for you and H and children. They need you now. Got God? He has carried me through these darkest of days...

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I suggest you do a search on the web.....lots of info out there. Also of course, see your GP.

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Genital warts (Human Papillo Virus or HPV) are highly contagious when in the active state. Condoms don't stop the virus, but apparantly slow it down. The virus CAN be passed by oral sex, and the infected party can then pass it along to others orally.<p>Some people don't have outbreaks for long periods of time. There's no cure, but I believe there are some successful treatments for it.<p>I had asked my DR about them several weeks ago and this is the stuff that I remember.<p>kev

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Back on the hpv trail: recent clinical stats show as much as 1 in 10 women get it. More common to women. Very contagious. Can lead to and is one supposed culprit in cervical ca. It is ongoing. <p>Does anyone get mad here when they see the herpes drug ads? I do. They make casual/sex dating and a sexually transmitted disease seem ok. Like you can just be "free and ez" without care or regard to who you bed with. I have a friend and she got it from fiance. Trust me, no cake and champagne. Dumped him (right thing) and married a great guy. But still flares up and makes her mad. Especially the pill ads. Notice that the women laughing and having a good time are wearing WEDDING rings? Can you see the correlation here? Herpes and devil-may-care sexual lifestyle and the pill and responsible, safe sex? No wonder there are A's out there. The drug czars out there even market the diseases now. I cringe when I see those valtrex ads. However, listen to the voice speaking softly while all the romantic and adventurous images are floating across your tv screen. <p>Think that all responsible people should just go out of their way to say that they are EXCITING AND COOL without risking their lives and health for a few minutes, or hours if you prefer, gambling with their lives and the lives of their spouses or OP.<p>Just a thought and kina a rant. I am/was in med profession and these kinda things get me all rialed up. <p>to topic starter, have you checked your blood pressure lately? When i went to my doc a few weeks ago, mine was skyrocketing from continual stress. Going back next week or week after to get follow up on that. Keep track of that too. Had to take it 3 different times to make sure that it was really running that high. (over the course of one hour)..Stress is a disease too and both our BODY and MIND are affected. Life is a symphony and when either the body or mind, or both is out of tune, the whole song just isn't as lovely. <p>Kevco, been praying too for you. God bless.

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I have a family member who lives with herpes. Her flare ups seem to take place at stressful times.<p>I have to respond to the comments about the television ads though. I think the message they are trying to get across isn't so much that casual sex is OK but that you can still live a life with herpes, a happpy life involving a relationship. I see nothing wrong with these commercials. I do believe there was a time when condom commercials caused an uproar. People thinking that such commercials would lead our younger generation to become more sexually involved. It's called education. There are people out there who live with herpes but don't see a doctor, commercials are a valuable way of getting some new information to these people.<p>louser I think if you're looking for information on herpes that this is the wrong place to look unless someone here has an MD after their name. Talk to your doctor and take everyone's advice here lightly since I doubt any of us are experts.

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HPV(genital warts) are a virus and can act like one--staying inactive in your system, or accelerating, or disappearing. <p>You need to go to your physician, may as well get the whole STD screen including HIV done. The doctor will not be shocked. HPV can be transmitted if a condom is used--because it is a virus.

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Louser,<p>For some good preliminary medical info, visit http://my.webmd.com and do a search on genital warts. From there, you will see a list of related articles. Towards the top, you will find the following links...I think these will help answer your initial questions, but talk with a doctor for more info and testing (genital warts and herpes are not the same).<p> HPV and Genital Warts
Self Care of Genital Warts
Genital Warts and Cervical Cancer
Ask the Expert About Genital Warts While Pregnant
HPV: A Sexually Transmitted Virus
Self Care of Sexually Transmitted Diseases<p>Good luck...<p>[ December 03, 2001: Message edited by: sorrowful ]</p>

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genital warts can be removed with liquid nitrogen. Your GYN can perform this procedure. If your husband has them he should get them removed. A woman who's had HPV should be careful to always get her yearly PAP smears because it can be associated with an increased risk of cervical cancer.

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I was diagnosed several years ago...I can't really remember, but less than 6 years ago.<p>
I had a small wart/mole on my upper pubic area (no where near the genitals) Sorry to be so graphic..<p>Anyway, went to Dr. & he sent me to dermatologist.
He removed the mole (which was a MOLE), but said the tiny "moles" around it (I had said the mama mole had grown a little family) weren't moles at all, but genital warts.<p>I had NO idea what he was talking about.<p>He explained that they were an STD & where did I think I got them? I explained that I had been married for over 10 years & my last sex partner was at least 12 years ago. He didn't really ask anymore questions & led me to believe that maybe it was something that lay dormant all those years.<p>naturally I never suspected my H....He was such a saint...lol<p>My question???<p>I've looked all over the web & all I seem to read is that it normally appears within 3 months to exposure to the virus. I have never had any again, but my H has a few tiny flesh colored raised things near the tip (very similar to what the web described) Anyway...I need to know if this virus can actually stay dormant for 12 years.<p>My serial cheating H says there is no way he has them or got them from any of his A's (they were all "nice" girls..ha!)<p>He claims I must have gotten them from my previous boyfriend (that was 18 years ago)...<p>Another "fog" tactic of the deny to the end WH.<p>Any help would be appreciated...no clear answers on any of the sites...<p>
p.s. About the commercials ...they make me sick..what ever happened to good old fashioned morals?

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My dr made me read through a whole HPV computer info program when I was diagnosed. I believe it said that the dormancy had been found to be as long as 10 years. Although...how that time was arrived at, I have no idea.

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My H says he is trying to "make it up" to me & make our marriage better than ever, but then he goeas and says something stupid like "You probably got the warts from that old looser boyfriend of yours."<p>Why can't these cheaters just humble themselves & admit that maybe they are wrong, they are sinners & repent a little.<p>It would certainly help the suffering on us WS's.

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Louser,<p>I don't have all the answers but I am an Ob/GYN NP, so this is the kind of thing I spend my day with. <p>First of all, it's estimated that 9 out of 10 sexually active people (male and female) have HPV. It's almost a given at this point. There are different kinds of HPV and different "kinds" cause different symptoms. It's now accepted that ALL abnormal pap smears (dysplasia) are a result of a strain of HPV. Another strain causes genital warts or condyloma. <p>9 out of 10 of his "nice girls" [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] have HPV. It is a virus (human papilloma virus) and can remain dormant for many years. 10 is usually textbook but I've heard of longer. If he's had similar looking "lesions" on his penis, then it's almost certain that he also has genital warts. <p>On a good note, genital warts are usually pretty treatable. Weekly (for several weeks) TCA treatments at the MD/NP office or (even better) a new drug called Aldara that you use at home is usually very effective. This is not the same as herpes and the future outlook/treatment/interference are completely different. <p>Let me know if there's any other questions I can answer.<p>AB<p>[ December 04, 2001: Message edited by: almostbroken ]</p>


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