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<p>[ December 20, 2001: Message edited by: Getting very tired ]</p>
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Getting Very Tired, I just finished reading your link...I think the email you sent her was fine. Very open and accepting. Sounds like that is exactly what she needs right now.<p>Whether she is in shelter or with OM is immaterial..she is reaching out to you. I would go and get her. Have lots of blankets, pillows and warm soup in the car for the ride home. From what you say, she does have a lot of problems, but what she needs most of all is security and warmth.<p>If she is as depressed as she sounds, it wouldn't be unusual for her to not call or respond too much. Severe depression makes even the smallest tasks seem insurmountable.<p>If you've read about lovebusters, you know what they are..that is your only task now..not to LB and to provide security. She will have to work with someone to help her with the other issues before she'll be ready to do much with recovery. Are you up to the task? Sounds like it.<p>You've made wonderful changes in your life which will help you to be strong...give her a chance to do the same.<p>I'm usually over on recovery and would love to hear how this goes. Good Luck, T
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GVT,<p>Could this be rock bottom? When people are depressed, or generally in a bad place in their lives (mid-life, etc...) it often takes for them to hit absolute ROCK BOTTOM before they begin to see the light and to fight to get back to normalcy. <p>Maybe, JUST MAYBE this is it. I would definitely try to make her feel safe with you (absolutely NO LB). She IS reaching out to you...maybe the crisis counselors have reached her, if only a small bit. I would rather have that chance than none at all.<p>Go to her, be safe, sane, and loving.<p>Good luck,
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GVT,
So, what are you thinking?
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<p>[ December 20, 2001: Message edited by: Getting very tired ]</p>
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<p>[ December 20, 2001: Message edited by: Getting very tired ]</p>
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