Hi to everyone, I am doing a little better, still crying a lot. WH stopped by the this morning and we got a chance to talk, I finally got him to admit that he still has contact with OW, he also is still having sex with her.<p>I realize that we are separated and we have lawyers involved but I just can't accept any of this. He claims this OW is not somebody he would spend his life with, Sounds to me like she only good for one thing??? What kind of a man has he become that he keeps this OW for his own enjoyment and what kind of woman could she be???<p>
This whole situation is so screwed up. He also claims that he has no guilt and no remorse for anything. My kids miss him so much he doesn't see them a lot.<p> I sure hope 2002 will be a better year for me and everyone else here, this has been the worse year of my life thank God its almost over.<p> Love Sally

Sally,<p>I know it seems impossible, but each day it will get a little better. You bring back all my memories of when my last H left me after 19 years of marriage. Just know this, that you will live over this and can be happy again some day. <p>Are you working on Plan A with him? And watching that you don't LB?<p>big hug for you:<p>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{SALLY}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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Sad Sally,<p>2001 has also been the worst year of my life. So, 2002 has only one way to go- up!!!! Lets decide that 2002 is OUR year!!!! We will make it count- with or without our H's. We have put our lives on hold for them long enough.<p>On New Year's Eve, at midnight, I am burning a paper containing my H's phone number and address that he gave me when we first met. I have carried this paper in my wallet since that day. I am sad about this, but I also figure that if we should reconcile, we will be beginning fresh, making new memories.<p>So, heres to us and our happiness.....<p>Advice Seeker [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Sad Sally-<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I realize that we are separated and we have lawyers involved but I just can't accept any of this. He claims this OW is not somebody he would spend his life with<hr></blockquote><p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>This whole situation is so screwed up. He also claims that he has no guilt and no remorse for anything.<hr></blockquote><p>I have heard the exact same things; have felt the same way. My WS said at first she had huge guilt, but then felt she was entitled to .. this.<p>advice seeker is right on the money. Could 2002 be any worse? (hmm, I will be 42 and "in the market...) NO. It's got to get better.<p>
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>On New Year's Eve, at midnight, I am burning a paper containing my H's phone number and address that he gave me when we first met<hr></blockquote><p> What a great idea! I may steal this. <p>I may also be burning small bits of her clothing, hair, and chanting under my breath....<p>Dan

Hi sally just wanted to send a hug to you ((((Sally)))) and to say i couldent agree more about this last year, its been the crappest year of my life.<p>Next year can only get better, ive sunk to an all time low and im determined im going to SURVIVE with or without my H.
Life is to short to go on any longer in this misery.
Love and hugs to you.
Liz

Hugzzz...<p>Sally...all you can do is your best...and your best will change dependent upon daily circumstance...just focus on that...that you are doing YOUR personal best...<p>My H, too, said he deserved it...that he's living for him...I blew it one day and told him he was selfish...selfish when he married me and selfish now...he chewed on that one a long time...I shouldn't have gone there...<p>Just do as much for yourself and your children as you can...the best thing we can do is to learn and grow from this...the hardest thing...but the best thing too...<p>...and remember...it's not over...not really...

Thank you to all of you who replied to my post, My thoughts and prayers are with all of you i know you are all dealing with the same issues in one way or another.<p>I agree 2002, can only be better, it can't get any worse. sorry I didn't respond sooner I was just now able to get back on computer.<p>Agfain thank you all for your caring.<p>
Love and Hugs Sally

But just think, Sally, if it doesn't work out, you, me and lizzle [naughty girl!] can go out trolling for cute guys! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi Sally,<p>When in this triangle there is so much deceit and lies told by both WS and OP. Who knows what they've told each other regarding the situation.<p>I remember my H's OW would say things like it was too sad that he thought of her as just a play thing, and when he got the time away from me to come play with his TOY. She referred to herself as my H's mistress. My H's OW had very little, if no respect for herself, IMHO. <p>Your H does not know what he's doing, that's obvious, so I wouldn't listen to any of his fogese right now. My H told me the same thing, that OW was not his dream mate and the woman he always dreamed of, but for whatever reason they pursue these OW for the need(s) that weren't being met.<p>I can only guess that those needs were so important that having them met by OW, whether or not they think of them as their soulmate, they can't allow themselves to let go for fear that need will go back to not being met.<p>Just my theory. <p>Take care of yourself, Sally. You are being prayed for, sweetie.<p>Jo