<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: Bunny ]</p>

I am probably not the expert here, but the mood swings are a good sign of drug use. That could be lack of sleep also, or it could be depression.<p>The one drug that comes to mind that causes a short temper and huge mood swings is steroids, is he a body builder or has he started working out recently? There are bunches of other drugs out there that can cause big mood swings. You should probably look for other signs and perhaps write down any behavior that isn't normal for him, and that could help you learn what the problem is, and if it is drugs the symptoms can probably tell you what type of drug it is.

Hi Mylife,<p>Me too. No to drugs.....But I swore H was on something, his mood swings were terrible. Guess that's one of the bad side effects when you have an A. I mean, I thought she was drugging him with her tea stuff...... I heard this was possible but the A was strong enough to do continual damage. Harder to reach since it can be inbibed during a phone call, e-mail, whatever. The triggers are endless and deadly. <p>oooh double yuck..... yet some deal with A and drugs or alcohol. Watch him, have him testsed. Call your doctor to find out if you can use a saliva sample or something. Just an idea. <p>L.

I'm not sure about the type of mood swings you are describing, but they could be the result of the A itself. The FOG as we MB'ers call it, works it's magic by allowing the WS to justify their extremely hurtful actions to themselves. Every now and then the reality of what they are doing comes cleary into focus. This dose of reality coupled with the fact that they practically have to lead a double life to keep the A alive can wreak havoc on ones "normal" personality. <p>Your H may be more "aware" of what he is doing and this may in fact be causing him some serious conflict within himself.<p>Steroids do cause massive mood swings but you would see other side effects as well such as abnormal muscular growth or the appearence of acne. Being that you're H is a doctor, I would think he of all people would be aware of the dangers associated with using steroids or narcotics, not to say he is immune, but probably less likely than most to use them.<p>Keep your eyes open for evidence of drug use. If he has a habit, the evidence will be there. Don't be afraid to snoop, just be careful not to let your H know what you are doing.<p>Keep posting and keep the faith!
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I think that all BS's will agree that at one point or another we have all though that our WS's were on some type of drugs.<p>The mood swings are typical......I like to call it the Dr. Jekyl, Mr. Hyde syndrome as that seems to be exactly what it is. They are one person one minute and a completely different person the next.<p>It's all about the A and everything that surrounds it. They like to make us think that they are really happy with what they are doing....when in reality....they aren't.....so we aren't the only ones with issues during this time....they have them too. I sometimes think that my WH had a harder time of it than I did when he was gone and going through his A.

My husband wasn't using drugs or alcohol, but I sure can relate to the mood swing thing. As a matter of fact, his "mood" even had it's own name! "Rumplestiltskin".<p>Yes, he was having an affair too, but "Rumple" started long before that. He was/is a compulsive gambler and was way deep into his problem. I had no idea then what was going on, or that you can have a gambling problem.