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See post below (Hurting ALOT...)for story of our date on Tuesday night and my discovery of his major LB.<p>Okay, so since then, I have received no less than about 30 text messages from my H! It's unbelievable, really. On Wednesday, he sent them to me all day, just telling me things about his day and what people at his work were doing/saying. Then he went to Mall on his own that night and sent me text messages from there telling me that it was crowded and he just saw a cool digital camera with loads of new features, that he bought me a load of Christmas prezzies, yadda yadda. Then he RANG me a few minutes later and we just chatted about "stuff". Later that night, I got another one saying "goodnight. Sleep well". Which is what I usually send him, but he never answers back. <p>Today, it was the same thing! Asked me what I was up to, what I had for lunch, told me about his day and what he had for lunch. I even got a text message at the evil hour of 7:30 this morning saying that he just passed a bus stop with an advert for a new flavour of potato chips that he wants to try. Then tonight, he went out with a guy from work for some dinner and a few games of pool (which he texted me to tell me) and guess what? He sent me text messages while he was out telling me about the pool game! <p>So what the H*LL is going on? I'm definitely playing it cool. No questions, no LB's, no heavy talk. I sometimes don't even answer him. And I was having lunch today with one of his friends and HE even said "what is he up to? Why won't he leave you alone?"<p>I'm wondering if I freaked him out by saying that I was entertaining the thought of leaving the country?<p>What do you think? Anyone ever experience this behaviour from a WS before? And if so, what does it mean? Not that I'm complaining, or anything, but I do find it VERY odd. <p>Hoping some of you can shine some light on this for me!<p>venusenvy

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Just hold your course.<p>Plan A sweetie, NO relationship talks.<p>He's checking out your Plan A and liking it.<p>But you can still blow it by insisting on talking about your marriage.<p>Give it some time, and wait for HIM to approach you about reconciling...<p>I betcha OW has been lovebusting her little heart out and you are starting to look really good.

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V<p>Sounds like he might be missing you. Like BR said OW must be LB her heart out. Stay in Plan A. I do feel he is comming around. Sometimes the fog will lift for a while and always sets back in. <p>He must really be thinking about you most of the day with all the messages. (not much time to think of OW. goody,goody)<p>Hang in there V you are strong and you will survive this.<p>
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Hmmm...I guess I hadn't thought of it that way. Maybe OW is LB all over the place. He has got his company Christmas party tonight (employees only). I wonder if she is grilling him about whether or not he's taking me. He has told me that he's going on his own, so I imagine he's told her the same thing. But there is a nagging doubt in my mind that he's got an extra ticket from someone who isn't going and will be taking her. Just wondering if she's thinking the same thing and is asking him about that. I haven't asked him a thing, so that could be it. Or maybe I psycho-analyse all this stuff way too much. Note to self - must stop that. <p>So perhaps I should look at this sudden increase in contact from him as a good thing. I suppose I was just wondering if anyone else had experienced this and what it meant? <p>I will continue to Plan A and definitely will NOT discuss M, A, or ask any questions pertaining to them. <p>Cheers!
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My H did this with me.<p>The 2 big differences I see though is that we had to be separated over a year before that started to happen. His A was definitely dying a natural death (had been going on almost 2 years by then).<p>Also, I had filed for divorce a second time and this time he'd been served. I don't know how long he might have carried on contacting me daily or spending weekends, or coming over for a little SF.<p>Our first court date motivated him to make a decision. He had to get off the fence or get a lawyer. And after about 3 months of this daily friendly contact, he asked to come home instead of getting divorced.

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bump. More opinons, please?

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This roller coaster ride will go faster up & down in this plan A which is good actually, a progress. For now, just don't read it between the lines and let it go. If H is nice, cherish the moment, if H is mean, hang in there w/o LB. You want the rides go faster beacuse one of you have to stop it ... you could stop it w/ plan B or H stop it by ending A. Hopefully you are strong enough to wait until H could not. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]


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