My H had an affair with his X that lasted at least four years. He feels that it has been "over" for enough time (eight years) that I should "stop obsessing" and get on with our lives.
However, he is still in contact with her through emails from work. I don't know how often because he does not share that information with me. His children are both grown---youngest is 26. I feel that he should stop all this communication with her. He also sat with X and X's boyfriend at D's wedding in August while I had the dubious honor of sitting behind the three of them like an outcast.<p>In addition, my H will not follow the Four Rules of a Successful Marriage. I tried asking him to just follow the Rule of Protection. H feels that if I do not go along with whatever he wants that I am being controlling so he will not even follow the POJA. He also says that if he follows the POJA that I am making a selfish demand. I receive a lot of disrespectful judgments and selfish demands. HELP!!