Orchid,<p>I am a little slow but what is going on with you & your H. Did you kick him out for real this time or what? <p>Sorry if this sounds blunt, but I hate to write, I am in the middle of 3 papers that I have been working on for 3 wks (we are talking short papers here)but I am running out of words.

Hi Sing,<p>Thanks for asking. Not out on the street yet. Maybe? Well, depends....our talk has been delayed, conflicting work schedules. He is at work now and I am on my way to work also. He said we will talk tonight. He has been more pleasant to deal with. Still a ways to go but this time appears to have more sincerity. I think his admitting he needs to work on things and that he is not hopeless unless he chooses to be is helping him. I spoke with another MBer and she helped me understand a bit about 'seasonal disorders'. His family has it (H included) but individually they have not learned how to deal with it. I can see a difference from last year and previous years with H's attitude, it is a struggle (if he does have to deal with a seasonal disorder) for him in addition to the problems the A has brought out. The OW tried to call last week. I have not heard much since. I don't believe she will let us easily. She feels he is HER personal possession. Remember that she told me that my H commited 'emotional adultery' on her by coming back home to his family?!?!? So I belive that even when all ties are clearly severed, we may continue to have to deal with Psyco Babble Rabbit. I have the paperwork and waiting for the righgt time. <p>So basically, I am still back to where I was earlier this week just a bit more stable about it. <p>HOw are you doing? <p>L.

I am fine. I hate not having money. I hate that I have to change the way I live because STBX chose to live with the slut but for the most part I am fine. <p>1 paper down, 2 to go. I should have finished this last wkend but OS had his shoulder surgery, the good computer is in his room, (the other all but sits on the floor, I am too old to sit on the floor & type)and I could never get computer time.<p>good luck, stick to your guns [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ December 09, 2001: Message edited by: sing ]</p>

No $$?? me too..... but survive it we must. I get soo angry thinking about all that was lost (again) with this A stuff. Just makes it a worse item to deal with. <p>Anyway your son's surgery is ok? Does he have to go to therapy? Wow Sing you sure juggle a lot, mom, school, work, etc. Take care ok? <p>I'll e-mail you laters. <p>Aloha sis,
L.

Orchid,<p> I saw that you are out there today. How are you?<p>Indy<p>[ December 09, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]</p>

Hiya Indy,<p>I am ok. I really have to get my housework done and scoot off to work. MB been's a bit addicting today. My one relaxing day of the week, shot again!!! <p>You know Indy, I am ready for whatever. Settled in my heart. I finally feel I am at the acceptance stage of this stuff. Really this time. More sure than before. <p>I was just talking with my SIL and I said that I am now stable than this past year. I am normally a very stable person but this A stuff really threw me for a loop and it looks like it actually took over a year to recoup from. Now I feel I am there. The M can stay or D can happen, I can and will move on. I say that with more confidence than everbefore and I thank God, my family, friends, co-worker and my MB friends and adopted family here. Even the LB Fairie....LOL!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I want all of us to get to that settling point. It does not mean we will not feel future pain, it just means that we are ready to move on. I've wanted to feel that way for quite a while but I guess I just was not emotionally ready yet. I feel I am now. <p>Thank you for your concern and your care. Indy & Sing I will continue to pray for you and your respective families. You are both have a special place in my heart. I have learned and made friends with many here. With that I have gained the confidence to move on. H & I are suppose to talk later today. It has been put off for about 4 days now. We'll see. <p>How are you doing? <p>Take Care,
L.

Orchid,<p> I am kind of ok I guess. Weekends are really hard for me just like NPIG. I updated my post lastnight. She called again. I am glad and sadden by what you have said today. It is unfortunate that people destroy families because they can't control themselves. I would love to hear how that talk goes tonight. I will be on here most of the day. <p>Indy<p>[ December 09, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]</p>

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Orchid:
[QB]No $$?? me too..... but survive it we must. I get soo angry thinking about all that was lost (again) with this A stuff. Just makes it a worse item to deal with. <p>Anyway your son's surgery is ok? Does he have to go to therapy? Wow Sing you sure juggle a lot, mom, school, work, etc. Take care ok? <p>I'll e-mail you laters.[/OB] <p>don't think I am wonder woman, I am not working now, that is why no money, just school <p>surgery went well, it was othroscopic (sp) but the problem he feels fine, doesn't want to wear sling, etc. MEN,<p>actually enjoying the time they are with their dad. be better if I hadn't put off these stupid papers, just 1 to go. last topic "Analze some of the problems faced by residnents on the Mexican side of the border. Discuss how the maquiladora insustry can exacerbate or alleviate those problems " can only use lecture notes & book By the Lakes of Sleeping Children fun fun.