Hi to all, Gosh I have really missed all of you, hope you are all well and okay. Everything with me is okay, WH is still deep in fog. I am waiting to hear from my lawyer, she responed to a letter I recieved from WH lawyer, I have not heard anything yet.<p>My kids have been seeing him about once a week or twice maybe, he is still very distant. He asked me what I wanted for my b-day on Dec. 16, I told him I wanted my family back, he laughed and said sorry I can't do that, some answer huh??<p>I have been busy with work and christmas and haven't had time to sit on the computer but finally I said I need to see what is going on, and how everyone is. very sad for me this time of year especially with everything going on, I find myself in tears constantly.<p>I suppose things are starting to sink in, but I have not yet accepted the way he feels about us, I guess thats still to painful for me.<p>Well anyway write me back and let me know how you are all doing.<p>
Love and Hugs
Sally

Hi Sally. Glad to hear from you I was just thinking about you the other day. I too have very limited time and haven't had a chance to be on MB as much as I use to. I'm so sorry to hear that WH is still in the fog. You sound as though you are doing better. I know it's difficult SS especially at this time of the year. You hang in there okay cause you will get through this. You know that we are here for you.<p>As for me H has been back at home a little over a month. In the beginning it was awkward trying to re-adjust. Things are going much better now. Seems as the weeks go by it gets better. We started MC last week. We are actually doing things together again. I am hopeful that our M will work. My biggest issue is that he still works with the OW and has some contact with her. I know that I have to just let that go but there are days when it's difficult. We talk alot and I haven't LB'd once. Major milestone for me. Well that's whats been going on in my life in a nutshell.<p>SS please keep us posted on how you are doing. You are in my prayers. Try to enjoy the holidays.
Hugs and prayers,
C

Hi Cybil, So glad to hear from you. Yeas I am doing a little better, I guess I need to accept whats happening.<p>So glad to hear you and your H are doing well. Thats wonderful that you both starting MC I wish my H would go. You sound good also.<p>
Sounds like your H really wants it to work. I hope you and your family enjoy the holidays, my thoughts and prayers are with you also.<p> love Sally

sorry, sally that your H is where he is...<p>I hope you are focusing on you...<p>You can only educate yourself at this point...and though it is tempting...trying to educate WSs is pointless and frustrating.<p>Make some plans for your birthday to have fun...sometimes when BSs do things that are 'out of the ordinary' or 'pampering ourselves' it gives the WS pause...that we will be moving on with our lives...sometimes that causes them to think...<p>Take care,
Cali

Hi Sally,<p>{{Hugz}}. Good to hear from you. At the same time sorry to hear that the fog is still in the air. WE have it every winter but the A one is year round..... <p>Hon, those tears will keepa comin' for a while, then you will progress to the next stage until you finally reach acceptance. For each of those stages it is important to keep busy. Focus on the good you can do for yourself and family. <p>You are sounding better, stronger even. Part of the recovery for you. He will see it and need to catch up. <p>Take care,
L.

Hi Sally,<p>We are still in about the same spot...except we have quit all communication.<p>H is still trying to justify what he has done. Called my best friend the other nite and said he wanted to sit down with her and her husband to tell his side of the story. He is telling everyone that he never should have married me and that I have been emotionally unstable for 20 years....RIGHT!!!<p>Good to hear from you...try to have a good holiday season with your kids. We are trying to here. <p>Have to get to bed...don't want to be "unstable" at work tomorrow [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Thanks Cali, yes I am trying to focus on myself, but some days its hard. Not sure what I will do for my B-day, but I will make sure I do something special for myself.<p>
Hi Orchid, Thanks for the hug, I am feeling a little stronger, some days are good some are bad. What makes it more difficult is the fact that he has no contact with us, maybe once a week, he will call and ask to see the kids, its so wierd.<p>
Hi MnM, So sorry to hear your in the same position, what a bunch of a$$ holes these WH are. I am so sick of watching them try to justify what they have done, there is no justification. You just don'y walk out on 20 years of marriage kids, etc.. without giving it your best shot at making it work. they bailed and took the easy way out and now want to place the blame on us the BS. My WH never calls or comes by, its like he has totally disappeared. My thoughts are with you MnM.<p>
Love to all
Sally