<p>[ December 21, 2001: Message edited by: Getting very tired ]</p>

Getting very tired,<p>Red alert ... Red alert ... pls someone call sing, my fairie LB !!!. It is common that when BS in plan A we are desprate for any response from WS. The problem is we have to know our weakness and stay away from it for now. If she is for you she will be there after you are done with your plan C. Never tell your M problem to any female other than your MC, protect your weakness. It is very hard, I almost walk into one. She is everything rivals my WW by far and for sure it will drive SNL crazy of why I walked away from it (my BE). I never tell my M story at all and I walk away from it. If you have to start over, start over the correct way and don't drag her to your dying M.<p>About her repeating when I get back home, it seems that she really needs help to reassure herself that it is "safe" to go back home. You should not drop it but you should reassure her that it is "safe". 1 Cor 13:4-7, "no record of wrong" for WW when she is back. Is she in kind of danger leaving OM ?.<p>It is an LB for you to mention A b/c you make her feel guilty. This is the reason why she talked about "when I get back home". Stop it. Just be there for her and assure her that you are there for her and no question ask, no judgment. Read on prodigal son.<p>Read my post on Why wait ?<p>God Bless You.<p>[ December 15, 2001: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

red...She is everything rivals my WW by far and for sure it will drive SNL crazy of why I walked away from it (my BE). <p>snl..what is a BE? In any event, I am 100% in agreement that you can only work on one relationship at a time. And you are absolutely right, if someone else is the one for you, they will be there after you have honorably resolved your marriage, and it ends. The problem is it usually takes an affair to learn this truth. The solution? Make a course in MB a pre-requisite to getting a marriage license.<p>btw there is nothing I can do for rev, I would just make everyone mad if I said what I think there.

<p>[ December 21, 2001: Message edited by: Getting very tired ]</p>

I don't think I can mention it with it being a LB anyway. I mean her best description of him is "he doesn't mistreat me". I haven't a clue and fear that if I mention it that it would mean wiping away progress that I have made.
Yes, you could. You could ask as a concerned husband, mention it when she opens the door talk about OM, and don't push it.<p>I have done everything to reassure her that she will be "safe" coming back and that we will start afresh. I have spoken to her of the MB principals and she seems to like them and she acutally stumbled onto the POJA without even knowing about it. So I don't know.
You have done great job except stay away from that shop and don't lurk around to check "that nice woman". Be patience, 2 more weeks ... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]