I gave him the Plan B letter today. It was in the bag with his other mail, so I don't know when he'll read it... either this afternoon or tonite. I just saw him... handed the bag to him, and we chit-chatted for a few minutes. I wasn't rude, but I wasn't overly friendly either.<p>I'll keep you posted if anything comes of it.

Okay Faith. Are you okay? How do you feel?<p>Jo

I'm fine. Kinda relieved. Kinda nervous what might happen now. I'm pretty confident about the no contact thing. No kids makes that pretty easy. He's going out of town this weekend to see his Mom for christmas. We'll see! We don't talk much as it is.... I just wonder if he will react to the letter at all. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Thanks for asking [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] .

Faith1,<p>Good for you! I think you needed to do this. I know you don't have much contact, but as someone else said, knowing he COULD contact you at any time was filling an EN. Please keep us posted if he responds. He may not say anything, but that doesn't mean it had no affect. Do something nice for yourself for Christmas. You deserve it!!! <p>I'll be spending xmas eve and xmas day alone while my W and daughter are with her family. I'll see my family xmas night. That will be tough because I'm really close with her family. Oh well, sign of things to come?<p>sad dad

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Good luck. Be strong...

Thanks sd! It means a lot to hear from you. I saw your reply last nite, but I was pooped. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I think I needed to do it too. Somehow, I don't expect to hear any response from him til after New Years'. We'll see though.<p>Yes, I've been doing nice things for myself... manicures, pedicures [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] , doing whatever I want [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] it's kinda nice deciding what I want to do and when. Guess what? I am in complete control of the REMOTE!! ha-ha!! <p>I'm trying to keep my chin up during the holidays... I have plenty of family to be with, but I know it's going to hurt not having him around. The Holiday Roller Coaster.... oh boy!!!

Good Job Faith. I bet you got butterflies in your tummy. <p>Now with the hoilday sales I think you should go buy some nice, new clothes, and treat yourself to a facial(so relaxing).<p>Now you don't have to worry about the toilet seat being up either. haha<p>Keep your head up, you can do it. We love ya Faith. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Faith - good luck to you. I have been scarce on the forum recently, but I will watch for your updates and questions as a fellow Plan B'er.<p>The simplest advice I can offer now is the following: When in doubt about what to do, do nothing. Ask the forum. There should be no sense of urgency once you get into Plan B. Take all the time you need to get the good minds here in your corner.

KS and BtDt, thanks for the encouragement [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] . <p>WAT, thanks soooo much for responding. Your advice is verrrrrry valuable. I will definitely stay close to MB. Yes, please keep an eye out for me.<p>[ December 20, 2001: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

[img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] Just keepin' an eye out... Any new developments???

Faith, <p>It's been a while but you have been on my mind. I see you are doing good. Keep up the good work, Faith. <p>Take Care,
L.

Haven't heard a peep! <p>I did a lil snooping (go ahead and slap me), and just "happened" to see them leaving for the weekend trip... I was wondering if she was going with him to see his family for Christmas.... YEP. oh well. I figured.<p>I'm a little down today... it's his b'day. I wanna tell him Happy Birthday soooooo bad. But I won't. No contact. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] I can do this. I hope there will be some weekend MB'ers around!!! I'm gonna need you the next few days!!!<p>But, I'm fine. for the next 5 minutes.... haha.... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img]

Faith1,<p>Sorry to hear what you saw. I replied to your response on my thread, I won't be around this weekend, but I'll be home (alone) on xmas eve & xmas day so I'll keep my eye out for ya.<p>It may take awhile for plan B to have any affect, he may be thinking it's just a ploy on you part. Doesn't matter, plan B is for you. <p>sad dad<p>P.S. I know how hard it is not to snoop, but you can't begin to heal if you do. It will just lead to more pain, and the worst part is you'll be bringing on yourself. I can't say I wouldn't be doing the same thing though.