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Did you go to the party like you wanted? Or did you let H go and lie about where you were?<p>Give us an update!
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Terrified?<p>You around, Honey?
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Terri,
Hope all is well?!
Love & prayers,
HH
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So nice to hear from all of you...sorry that I didn't respond sooner. Holiday "busy" and I've definitely been pushing myself to be spirited but...I did go to the party on Tuesday. I talked to my H and said quite sternly when he asked "who" should go, I said, "I'm going to go with D and when they ask about you, I'll tell them the truth." Surprisingly, he ended up coming...and after at our home, he came in and wound up pretty intimate although he kept saying..."it's lust, two lonely people reaching out" just after being in bed with our D together reading to her. <p>For the first time, I didn't cry or lash out when he left at 1:30 a.m.. I was sad and nostalgic. Of course, I fear 2002. It will just be much worse.<p>I thank you for your thoughts and your caring support.
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Terri,
I like the sounds of that intimacy thing!
You may not want to comment & that is OK, but is this OW still out of the country.
This may not be a healthy perspective, but with your seperation and all & with his commnet about lust, it could almost be like the chemistry of an A -- forbidden and all -- just passion.
Perhaps that is something to pursue? Develop an attitude that you have physical needs & his congegal visits are for you as much him of course & that you don't have to attatch all the mushy stuff -- hell, I odn't know, I am just rambling, but maybe that could be a turn on for him that eventually leads to renewed feelings! I think they are still there, he just has really big ego thing going on here!
Best of Holidays!
HH
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Hey HH, So good to hear from you...almost like having an angel on my shoulder. Strangely enough, I was thinking the same thing as what you wrote...actually, I went out at lunch to buy some different lingerie and just go with it whenever it feels good for me too!! <p>And you know what...I too really believe his feelings are still there somwhere...pride is standing in the way. However, it's still not enough for me. I want it all or nothing.<p>How are you doing?
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