Ok I'll take any reply at this point. Background it started june 2000, d-day Jan. 2001 and lots more since. She stopped contact about a month and half ago. We were both in seperate counceling and now in MC together.
Her OM just had his first baby. I watched her get nasty and angry with me as she went through withdrawl. She was on the fence for a very long time, she went back and forth.
I finally learned just to be there and do nothing more, it was probably the best thing I ever did and took a long time to learn to do.
Ok the last 2 weeks started to be real nice after a bumpy start. She was becoming bubbly, asking me to do things, cuddling in bed, and even got frisky [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] !
Well along came her x-mass party and there was some obvious contact. She immediately became removed and the next couple of days were nasty and short tempered with me. I didnt listen to myself and today I asked her did you speak or were you with The OM because you seem a little on edge. Well we all know that was an LB and the rest of the day went down hill from there, I even managed to bring up another dig from the past an uncontrolable LB.
My question is, why would she allow the OM to see her instead of just drawing the line? Is this going to set us back for a while, or is withdrawl going to start again? And last will my actions be enough to send her back into his arms? Thanks all I hope to hear some feedback, Have a great X-mass! And for you newbee's hang in there, I know it will someday pay off. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]
