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<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: Bunny ]</p>

Sounds pretty good to me, I can tell you put a lot of thought into it, I have not written one yet so will not be the best to critque yours, did see some grammatical errors, nothing major, you'll pick them up as you tweak your letter.<p>When is your baby due? As I look back WH had contact with Ow during my third pregnacy and that was 10 years ago. (At that time they were just friends from the old neighborhood, I mean I knew about the contact)Just thought of that as I seen in someone elses profile that their WH had A during 3rd PG. How wierd is that?<p>Again letter looks good, very loving very thought out, good boundries.<p>Dawn<p>[ December 29, 2001: Message edited by: daybreak ]</p>

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HI, I really like your letter a lot... do you want to say anything else? I do not have my surviving an affair book as I gave it to my H who threw it away... <p>I understand the pain you are in. I am sorry I have not written a plan b letter, I too am very curious if this is good format... it does clearly express plan b.<p>It seems you are clear on that if he ends OW relationship it can be a time to work on the marriage.<p>I too am not very lucky with the OW just getting out of the picture... I have tried in every way that I can to get her out to the point of becoming a complete fool... the truth is we can only let go and be the best that we can ourselves...<p>I think you are doing a good thing and I like that you mentioned keeping OW away from the children... I know this was horrid for me and still is.. my H is in complete lala land about that point.<p>I really think it sounds good, but hope you will get more feedback from people who have done it.<p>HONEY [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

mylife,<p>I can see that you must have read my draft of my plan be letter since I see some familiarity. I take that as a compliment.<p>I have a couple of suggestions. I think you may have written a little too much about the mistakes you've made and the things you've done that created the invironment for HIS affair. I'd condense that a little and not take so much of the blame.<p>Also, I don't think you made it really clear that you can't have any contact with him. I think you need to state that more directly and the terms under which you will allow contact (namely when he ends contact with OM once and for all). <p>Just my opinions, otherwise you've made it very clear that you are still want your marriage and are willing to do whatever it takes.<p>sad dad

<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: Bunny ]</p>

I think you need to come right out and say that in order to protect the remaining love that you have for your spouse, you are asking that there be no contact with you , while he continues to have contact with the OW. <p>That is what the thesis of the letter should be. It sounds like your current letter's thesis is more about what changes you have made in the past few months.<p>I think I would continue to 'tweak' it a bit.<p>TNT

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