One week over the near disaster I adverted for Christmas day, my WW has invited me over for New Years Eve. I'm not quite sure how to take it. We were casually talking over the phone yesterday about plans for tonight. The girls are at her place this week. My oldest daughter will be going to a party at a friend's house. WW's invitation came before she knew of this. That would leave just the two of us and my youngest, 10, who may not make it to see the ball drop. The thing is, I'm not quite sure if I got asked because WW wanted me there or she just felt sorry for me.<p>To complicate matters even further, WW and youngest D are going to OW's (most of you know my WW is envolved in an EA with another woman) before all this to exchange presents. It makes my skin crawl to think of this. Oldest D will have nothing to do with OP. Why my wife insists on continuing to mess up youngest D's head is beyond me.<p>So, what I'm getting at is that I might not be in the best frame of mind in going over to WW's place later. I really want to do it because one of the ENs I wasn't meeting with my wife is conversation. We will have an excellent opportunity to talk. I just need to be able to get the earlier event out of my head. Plus, who am I kidding? I want to be with my wife on New Year's Eve.<p>Does anyone see anything wrong with going or have any suggestions?

Go and have a great time. That's the best thing you could possibly do. It shows that she wants to spend time with you. As far as her "feeling sorry" for you--please. Give yourself some credit, man. She wants to spend it with you=big time opp for LOVE UNITS deposit.<p>Followed your story a little bit, but I'm not quite sure how to respond to the peculiar circumstances. My WW and I had a talk about that today and I honestly told her I don't know what I would do in that situation.<p>Enjoy NY Eve, talk nice, give hugs--<p>Guido

Always Hopeful,<p>I say go. Your W isn't feeling sorry for you she obviously wants to spend time with her family and ring in the New Year. Go and make some deposits in her love bank. Good luck.<p>Happy New Year,
C

My H wants to see me too tongiht.. and I am going... I am scared but it is giong to be a good night.. I really want to see him.. thanks and good luck to you too, I'll focus on plan a if you do.. no relationship talk on new yrs right, thanks,we can do it! <p> HONEY

Go for it man, at least your W wants to spend time with you, My W hasn't spent time with me since Dec. 8th on my B-day now she is living with OM and having EA/PA.<p>Go spend time with her, and may the new year bring you "better" times.

I'm curious... Did you go???

Yes, I did go.<p>I got there around 10:00 PM. We talked for a couple of hours. I didn't bring anything up about the separation or anything else related to it. We just chatted about little things like work, people we know, etc. Nothing in particular. Just meeting her need for conversation. My youngest was there as well. About 12:30, I gave her a kiss on the cheek and went home...