or not.<p>WH said many times in e mails and phone conv's that we would talk about DV when he got here for Christmas. I knew that I was not going to allow this to happen, as it wasn't fair to do this over christmas. Never shared that with him tho.<p>WH was here and left. Couldn't really look me in the eye while here, did stay in D room. Didn't LB once thought about it specially when he used my computer to e mail HER!!<p>Had sent a simple e mail thanking him for being here and that I appreciated him doing it for the kids, sent this while he was here as I knew he was checking the e mail. No response til yesterday, he left the 27th. Said that he enjoyed him self.<p>Gave WH two gifts and never once did he thank me, opened one while I was out of the room even.<p>I sent an e mail with pix of kids and simple note, thanking him again and reminding that he had forgotten to leave me a check. E mailed me back asked to send some other pictures of kids.<p>No talk of DV at all, I set apprehensively every time I check my e mail, thinking is he going to blast me this time.<p>
Did talk to WH after kids did at midnight last night, 20 yo S is giving me headaches and quit his job over Christmas, hasn't bothered to look for anything was told he must be in school or working full time to live in my house. Said that I would take him half way to his fathers Saturday. I need the break from the kid!! Discussed how we failed our son and things related to that but none of us talk.<p>I don't want to ask any questions as WH always waits for me to intiate talks on the big things in life. The waiting is horrible!! I know that I must tho.<p>Question how do I continue plan A? How can I do it long distance? Don't tell me to go to B yet as I am not ready, I know that that time is coming soon.<p>Thanks for reading, just needed to share. My 10 yo D has friends over for a slumber party this evening so I will have time on the computer. C ya soon Dawn

<p>[ January 20, 2002: Message edited by: MMMMM ]</p>

Daybreak,<p>Remember, Plan A is not about H, it's about YOU. It sounds like you're doing exactly what you should during Plan A....improve yourself, make your home a safe environment for H, and NO LB. That's all you can do, it doesn't matter whether H is living with you or not.<p>Kev

Kev,<p>I do know that Plan A is for me. I guess what I was asking was what kind of things could I do for WH long distance that lets him know that I still care? should I e mail once a week or so? What should I say in an e mail? WH thinks I need to drop him and move one with my life, which I have done. I don't want to be to pushy or needy.
Just trying to keep communication open.<p>Dawn