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My WH has e-mailed me and asked me to drop off some things for his new apartment. He just wants me to put them ouside in his truck (because of plan B). He isn't asking for much: airbed, bedding, towels, cookware and a radio. He also said to bring anything else I think he may need.<p>My question is should I be nice and include something else? Or, so I just give him what he asked for? I'd like to give him a Bible or something like that, but don't know if it would be good idea.<p>Do you think he is looking for me to do something special for him at this point?<p>Thanks for input, I'm supposed to do this tonight.<p>Le
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Hi MovingForward, [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Ask yourself this question, Hon:<p>"Will I be meeting any of my H's needs if I go above and beyond what he has asked for?"<p>In Plan B we do not meet our wayward spouses needs.<p>It's so very hard to stop meeting their needs, MF. I do know. We've been with them so long it comes natural, but absolutely NO NEED MEETING, k?<p>Love,
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Thanks Jo,<p>You're right about this being hard! I keep wanting to do things for him because I love him! It's hard to put those feelings aside and only worry about myself!<p>Thanks again,
Le
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Does anyone else have any advise? I have to take the stuff to him in about a half hour.<p>Thanks,
Le
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C'mon guys ... any more advice for MovingForward?<p>I have one last suggestion, MF .... when in Plan B and if there is contact, always have a Plan A attitude. <p>Good Luck, Honey! Stay strong.<p>Lv,
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YOu know what... I am new and not an expert.. but I did bring my WH some stuff early on... and guess what.. I made the man a lasagna- his fav.- I made him a key lime pie.. - his fav... and I gave him more goodies too... It helped, and he was desperately lost in the OW- and she hated that I made him food... in fact she found it, and threw it away... and he got made at her.. because she threw away the food I made. ha ha ha ha ha!<p>Plan b, seems to be no plan a... but maybe plan a on contact? when contact is necessary? thanks.<p>Anyway... just got interrrupted.. good luck..
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K -- it seems to me that you are not ready to be in Plan B if you are worried about H's comfort.<p>Aren't you supposed to reach Plan B when you are in jeopardy of draining your lovebank? It doesn't sound to me like you are at that point.<p>I agree with Jo -- you should not be Plan Aing him right now. I think it jeapordizes your efforts.
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