Had Court this AM to schedule Trail Date. <p>My counsel told judge we were in Marital COunseling, SO the Judge granted us a 90 abatement and said good luck. <p>W and I had a cup of Coffee and discussed kids and MB. She says she is just not there. Its not in her heart. I told her of teh response I got here regarding getting the feeling back, Sh ehas to end relationship with OM, and is not willing to committ to that for fear she will not be able to keep committment. I told her to talk to SH and he can help her with that. She said she has talked to all of her friends both male and female and they all support her saving M. <p>I've been pushing MB to hard and have to lighten up, any suggestions on what I can do when I start "pushing"?<p>[ January 03, 2002: Message edited by: dadoftheyear ]</p>

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by dadoftheyear:
<strong>My counsel told judge we wern in Marital COunseling,</strong><hr></blockquote><p>WHAT does this say? You WERE in Marital Counseling, or WERE NOT in Marital Counseling?<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>I've been pushing MB to hard and have to lighten up, any suggestions on what I can do when I start "pushing"?</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Er - SHUT YOUR MOUTH instead of saying anything?
Seriously, I've been told to go to "Judo approach" - you know, like a see-saw. They push, you pull. It's a "dance." STOP DANCING. She doesn't want to....just say, "OK" She says she wants the div. - just say, "I don't want to, but if you do, OK." <p>Dad, IT'S JUST A PIECE OF PAPER. If you end up signing it and being div. it's just a piece of paper. It means nothing to your heart. It doesn't make your love OR hers go away. She's just trying to make everything make sense, but this won't do it. BUt you are not going to be able to show her that. She's going to have tofigure it out by herself.<p>BTW, HOW did you end up in front of a judge so quick? WHEN did she file? Or did you?<p>Lupo

Hey Dad, see my post about what Steve said, maybe you can use some of it, and dont push, consider the chiping away method instead.
Lora

Originally posted by dadoftheyear:
My counsel told judge we wern in Marital COunseling,
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------<p>"WHAT does this say? You WERE in Marital Counseling, or WERE NOT in Marital Counseling?"<p>Sorry for the typo, We are currently IC.<p>"BTW, HOW did you end up in front of a judge so quick? WHEN did she file? Or did you?" She filed 7/6/01. This was a docket call, (to schedule a trial).