I just wish it was all a bad dream and I'd get to wake up with my H beside me, with his arm around me......<p>When will the shock of it all wear off? I still cannot believe he's choosing her over me [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I'm crying at my desk....I know I won't be able to hold it together at the lawyer's office.<p>My H called me twice today and he seems down too. When I asked him what was wrong, he said he couldn't concentrate at work today, because of what we're doing this afternoon. I said "but this is what you wanted, right?" He said "yes it is, but that doesn't mean it's easy for me." <p>I imagine it's going to be a little easier for him, considering he's already got someone else caring for and loving him, and I don't.<p>Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers today....<p>Thanks,<p>MOM [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

MoM<p>Sorry...you sound very down and I can understand it. I love theline "this isn't easy for me either" You are right, at least he has someone to lean on...<p>Be strong, you will survive...<p>PS--Do you not have your own lawyer? It might be a wise move (my $0.02).<p>Take care <p>E

Thanks Elad,
We're using 1 lawyer as we are not arguing over anything (no real assets, I get custody, child support, etc.). It's cheaper. The attorney is one I worked for for 5 years, so he will explain to my H that he has MY best interests at heart, and should my H wish to engage his own attorney, he is free to do so. I don't think he will, as he wants to keep every dime he can...<p>Thanks again,<p>MOM

{{{{{{{{{ MoM }}}}}}}}}}<p>Hugs MoM.<p>You can do this. Try and calm yourself, Honey. Do you have a close friend's house that you can go to this evening and talk? <p>We're here for you, and thinking of you. <p>Lots of Prayers.<p>Love,
Jo

Sure, there are lots of places I can go. Just think I want some beers later! I know I can do it, just hate the "finality" of it...I mean, how did we get here??? It would have been so much easier if he hadn't jerked me around for 10 months first. I know you've been there and done that too!<p>Thanks Jo, prayers are MUCH appreciated.<p>Kari<p>By the way, my middle name is Jo!!

{{{{MOM}}}}<p>'nuff said?<p>K

Oh, dear.<p>{{{{{{{{{MoM}}}}}}}}<p>I wish there was something I could do or say to help. I'll be thinking of you and praying for you.<p>Just get through the appointment and then the rest of the day. Then get up tomorrow morning and get through tomorrow. Sometimes, that is all we can ask of ourselves. And that is burden enough.<p>I feel for you. Lean way over here, as much as you need.<p>Hugs,<p>OneDay

Mom,
I am so sorry you are having to go through this and just wanted to send you hugs and will keep you in my prayers!!!
S

MoM,
I Could not describe my feeling watching your posts. Hope you could sail through this stormy life event.

MoM,<p>Just wanted to tell you that I am thinking of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I know that this must feel like the lowest point. But, you can and will survive. Be Brave.<p>Needing

MOM---I send prayers your way also. You are definitely going through the ulitmate rejection but he will regret his decision one day. He sounds like he is struggling and I believe his struggle can't get better. Time will become like a magnifying glass. He will one day see his mistake. I know that does you no good now but it is time for you to focus on living your life and making the best of it all. There is LIFE after divorce and after the pain subsides....so many have gone before you. Being happy is he best revenge.<p>I reach out to you at this time of loss.<p>TW

Ahhhhh....MOM [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] Life sure can suck at times.....especially today. Be strong, hang tough and take good care of yourself and your children. You'll make it, slowly but surely.

All I can say is hang in there. We attempted the one lawyer idea and then he changed his mind. This is going to cost a bundle! Be strong....take one day at a time! You can do it!

MOM,<p>How are you? Hope you check in here before you turn in tonight. I am so sad for your situation.<p>Let your feelings out, then tomorrow hold your head up HIGH. You have stayed the course and done an admirable job. Time will ease your sadness. <p>{{{MOM}}}<p>Love,
Estes

MoM, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you made it through OK. Please take care of YOU and hang in there.
Hugs to you!
BH

Hi MoM, Thinking of you...hoping you're ok. Check in as soon as you can please? There are many of us praying for you. <p>Hugs

Dear MoM,<p>I hope you made it through ok...{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}. Hang in there...everyone says it eventually gets better--sometimes we have to hang on that hope...Take Care of Yourself

I'm sitting at my home computer just SOBBING. I cannot tell you what it means to me to have all of you supporting me. I'm so very grateful for the blessings I've received throughout this entire mess. I wish I could reach out and HUG THE HECK OUT OF ALL OF YOU!!! I can't believe all of you reaching out in the midst of your own pain to comfort another. It blows me away each and every day.<p>As for the appointment, I made it through WITH FLYING COLORS!! No crying; even laughed a couple of times. My old boss (the attorney) is a wonderful man, and he put my H at ease right away. He and his wife got divorced and used one attorney also. So, the first part (not the hardest, that will be the day of the hearing) is over with.<p>Unfortunately, on the way home, I really started crying. We got into a discussion about why he is pushing for D right away instead of separating first to figure things out. He basically said he does not want to have me calling him, checking up on him, and until we are divorced, he feels that's what's going to happen. I said "so basically, you want me out of your life as soon as possible?" He said "no, that's not what I mean." I asked him why he jerked me around telling me I was the love of his life 2 months ago, only to be able to toss me aside now. He didn't have an answer, just said he's screwed up (YA THINK!). He did say that before, when he used to say he liked himself just the way he was, that he was lying. He said he and his counselor had only begun to touch the tip of his problems. I asked him, and this one hurt me the worst to ask "how is it that you couldn't give her up after a few months with her, yet me, you're giving up after 17 years?" He couldn't answer that one. I just sobbed.<p>But I got over it, we got home and I didn't cry anymore. I got a hug goodnight (it felt yucky, as it felt like total pity). This a.m., he tried to talk and I just shook my head. He said "there you go giving me shaking your head answers." He just CANNOT POSSIBLY get what he's doing. <p>Anyway, folks, I've got 29 days left to live with him, and since I've made it this far, I know I can do it. I'm going to keep myself busy with friends, I'm starting a new bible study on Wednesday nights and I WILL LIVE THROUGH THIS. All of you and GOD have been here all the way holding me up. Thanks for being my friends.....<p>PEACE,<p>MOM (Kari)

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Myownme:
<strong>Anyway, folks, I've got 29 days left to live with him, and since I've made it this far, I know I can do it. I'm going to keep myself busy with friends, I'm starting a new bible study on Wednesday nights and I WILL LIVE THROUGH THIS. All of you and GOD have been here all the way holding me up. Thanks for being my friends.....
</strong><hr></blockquote><p>OK, MoM, just remember, "It ain't over till YOU say it's over...." so - PRAY, a lot!<p>And Plan A, Plan A, Plan A. He probably feels all torn up, too, but doesn't want to continue in his pain, and thinks getting away from YOU will take it away. NOT! In the meantime, you can do it, you said it, and Plan A the whole time. Make him really THINK about if this is really his best thing for HIM. But don't talk about that with him. Let him do all the thinking.<p>DO NOT try to latch onto him, play on his pity, or memories or any "manipulation" stuff.....just be sweet and nice, and light, and - happy (if you cant be, then just ACT AS IF)! [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Love & Prayers (I think I'll be where you are soon enough)<p>Lupo

Mom.... just wanted to give some support.... i'm sorry you are hurting.... ((( mom ))))