WH thinks that I caused D-20 to vent with all her anger about his contact with OW last Fri. D knows it is a two way street about our early marital problems, but she offers little forgiveness about his recent contact with OW. Major love bust because WH thinks I need to explain my role in our problems and the result was him having an affair. I told WH that she was angry and needed to vocalize her feeling from her point of view. <p> After MC Wed. we discussed his recommittment, and no-contact process,he had a hard time with the idea, but sorta -agreed. D was up all night and wrote a sething letter (5 pages)using very explicit language about him, OW, me, brother, suicide, friends ,his other female EA, how his actions effected her life the last 2 years along with her childhood experiences, church, morals, strength of character, and she was leaving early to go back to college. WH found it the next morning & I could tell it hurt along with making him very angry with me. I tried to tell him she is presently very very angry and that now all can be honest with each other and with time healing and respect will take place. WH is usually very pestimistic.<p> WH said that he did not call the OW, but that she called him and knew something was different since WH had not called her. Anyway he told her about recommitting to his marriage and no further contact. WH did tell OW about us contacting OW Fri. night with me(BS) about no-contact. I told WH that after her contact I did not feel good about any more phone conversations. WH then thought he should call and tell her that we weren't going to call. I asked if he would please honor my feelings and not call period. He said he would. So far I don't know if any contact was made. <p> Presently I don't even want to push the no contact letter, I feel WH last contact should be the last. What do you think?<p> I did acknowledge daughter's feelings, but I told her the sledge hammer effect was a little strong. She apolized for her temperment to WH, but not about how she felt, which I felt was okay. BTW D probably had her first good night sleep since she came home and is seeing a C at school.<p> They are both WH & D attending S-15 BB game 2 hours away and will drive back together I hope. D caught a ride down to get there earlier. <p> I have noticed that many of you have adult children, (18 & up), what are their reactions to limited acknowledgement of the A. D knows basic info. only. and much will not be discussed with her.