HI again, many of you know I have had a fierce struggle over wether to file or not to file... due to fil reccomendation to my H to take kids... etc.. and cross state line... I know my H and he will not do this... he says if we can work together pleasantly on things that will open doors, and allow roots to sprout... <p>I am very worried about OW again.. He says she was PReg last month, OMG. She is not anymore... Thanks be to God. I do not know whole story, for all I know it was her H's or she is making it up... my H is very confused.<p>Friday he sd it was over forever.. and today he sd she wants to move in again... it keeps going back and forth... she wants her house - her h says no he will keep the house and pay for it, and they can seperate.. my H says to her ... maybe she needs to live on her own and not move in with him.. she wants to move in with him... My state protects me if she does from visitations with her there....<p>Still not filing for now... just because of fear of his anger... and I KNOW HE will be mad... I prefer to stay bonded to him and not let HER, THE OW, say OH good I can move in... he is getting a D now... better that he is not... and I am not at all wanting a D, so that is a big part of my decision, no amount of money is worth losing my H.<p>Anyway...should he move on eventually I will feel better about trying harder and not pushing him away.. my big LB's have really pushed him over the edge lately... anyway, I am getting really tied and have to go to sleep... I went over to see him tongiht and we are back to sf... I am thinking after reading the post on what men want...sex... that is what my H wants... and he says he is not even attracted to her... this is a good thing.. he says they are the same she islike looking into a mirror... WHY? I am sure she agrees with everytbhing he says for now..<p>She says I am trying to turn him against me... she dreamed that he and I were at her house and he was killing her baby and I was laughing... GIVE ME a break.. she tells him I am the devil... give me a break.. <p>
He is being honest, but I have to keep my cool, I know this stuff is pretty knarly on my post, so please help! I am feeling strange, just surreal... like this is a nightmare and I just keep wanting to wake up and have my H here in our bed.<p>Thanks, HONEY

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please give reccomdations, maybe war is the wrong phrase... I just want to make a plan of "attack" on saving my marriage and start to solve it.

Hi Honey. Everything you need to fight FOR your marriage is right here in black and white. The Harley's seem to know their business and spell it out here and in their books in very easy to follow plans.
My guess is you need someone to validate your every move and my best recommendation is to get individual counseling. You can even find a link for that on the Harley site. If money is the object, contact the Family Services Association in your area.
Call off the war and start reading. God speed