How do I respond to my wife who is the WS. I have been in plan A for about two months now. Yesterday she showed me signs of hope and now today she sends me an email stating the following.
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I'm having a hard time today. Feeling very low and unhappy. I figured I'd let you know in advance so you're not wondering why I may be off when we talk again.
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I admit at least she is being open and honest with me. The hard part is I want to respond to her and make her feel better. But I know if I say the wrong words that I could make her feel worse. So what do you say to them when they are like this? They don't like hearing about the future, Love, etc...
I need help on what or what not to say. I don't have many chances and I don't want to screw things up worse then they are now. Well she screwed them up, I am trying to fix it.

confused_guy...<p>howabout...just listen and be supportive....<p>I understand you are feeling low and unhappy... I am here for you if you need me...<p>The BIG thing is NO relationship talks... keep it light... send her something funny or do something funny... don't make it about you or about her... keep it casual...<p>Cali

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by confused_guy:
<strong>I'm having a hard time today. Feeling very low and unhappy. I figured I'd let you know in advance so you're not wondering why I may be off when we talk again.
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</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I'm NO expert, I'd like to say, first of all, BUT I think you need to acknowledge her feelings. You could say something like, "I'm glad you shared that with me. Thank you for telling me you're having a hard time. I'd like to be there for you. Is there anything I can do to help?"<p>If she declines, then politely acknowledge that. "All right. Thank you for being honest with me. I appreciate your honesty."<p>There may be some experienced MB'ers who would tell you my ideas are all wet, and that's OK, cause, like I said, I'm no expert! I'm NOT "there" w/my Wh yet, so I may not be in the right ball park.<p>Good luck, and God Bless.

How about 'gee, I'm sorry...how about a nice glass on wine and bubble bath when we get home?'

Lupo,<p>I don't think you're all wet.... Is there water on Venus? Anyway, I think (from what I've learned from "Men-Mars, Women-Venus) that what you've suggested is right on track with what you Venusians need. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>CG- you need to realize that you can'g fix it. You've simple got to BE THERE for her in case she wants you to fix it. OK? Believe me, I know it sucks....but we've just got to hurry up and wait (all the while, Plan A'ing ourselves).<p>Kev

We've had a number of "off" days around here. I screwed up a bunch of them early on by thinking it had something to do with me... <p>Everyone is dead on in my opinion. Now I say that I'm sorry she's out of sorts and ask if there's anything I can do. And just listen!<p>The fact that she's telling you what she's feeling is a good thing I would think. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Take care,