JIM!!! Hi there, how ARE you? Have not seen you posting for a very long time.<p>I was active on the forums the same time you were....please give us an update.....LU

<small>[ February 07, 2005, 09:44 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

Hi, Terri<p>Yours was one of the first threads I responded to when I first started posting on MB back in Dec.98. I'm so sorry things did not turn out as you had hoped. No one tried harder than you to wait out your H's affair.<p>I know the future holds great things for you. You have learned so much through all this which will benefit you and any future relationships--so look at it as "time well spent."<p>Good luck and God Bless!

Hi Terri,<p>I'm so glad you posted. I still think about you and wonder how you are doing. terri, you truly did all you could do. Take satisfaction from knowing you have no regrets, and take all that you've learned to build a wonderful new life for yourself. We all reach the point where it is time to move on. D-day for me was Jan 99 - hard to believe it's been almost 3 years here too. I've been divorced a little over two months and time heals. <p>If it's of any interest, my H and his "slug" "broke up" within a month after our divorce was final. And who did he call in his misery? Me. Saying he moved too quickly to divorce (what - a 3+ year affair is quickly?) and fishing for how receptive I would be to trying again... But if you remember my story, this vacillation was a regular occurence, and I just didn't bite this time. And sure enough within 6 weeks he was talking to her again. I almost think that if I would play - this game would go on indefinitely. But like you I had to come to the decision - independent of the waffling actions of the ex-H - that it was time to truly move on. <p>I wish you peace and happiness. You deserve it.<p>((Terri))

{{{{{{{{{{{Terri}}}}}}}}}<p>We could never forget you. I'm sorry to hear this news, but Terri, honey you did everything humanly possible to avoid this. You know that. At least you will have no regrets and no *maybe I should have tried harder * moments. This was not your doing. Heck even he knows he could have come home and you would have taken him back in a heart-beat. <p>You have learned so much from this about who you really are and how strong you can be. I know one day you will find love again and when that day comes I want you to come back here and share your joy with us.<p>I also hope that the slug goes swimming, saltwater should be oh so good for her.

Thank you all so very very much. It is wonderful to be remembered by so many people...<p>I'm sorry I haven't responded before this, but I actually have something like a social life these days!<p>I have some bad days, but I think it is mostly because I haven't seen any sign of papers arriving, so everything is still up in the air (I almost wish I'd told him to just have them serve me at work - just to get it over with). I have good friends and keep myself busy with work AND fun, so I will be OK!<p>I don't consider this in any way a failure of MINE. Nor is it a failure of the Marriage Builders system in any way. As a matter of fact, my use of Marriage Builders principles have kept me whole and sane throughout this experience. I believe that if the principles are used ALL the time, it would be very hard, indeed, to break up a marriage.<p>Someday I hope to find someone who will recognize my worth ... until then, I am learning to enjoy just being ME. I'm in no hurry to jump into a relationship, but when I do get involved in one, I plan to use everything I've learned here. I use quite a bit of it every day in my dealings with friends and coworkers.<p>I will look in from time to time and when there is something to tell, I'll toss a rock or two [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Terri,<p> I just want to echo everyone's sentiments. You were a true friend and the voice of reason many times. I know things will go well for you. You have a big heart and a strong mind. Good Luck and check in sometimes
Kris

Hi Terri,<p>Sorry I missed this on the first go-around. I'm sorry for your pain, but you've done such an exceptional job standing for your marriage that I'm sure that you'll be rewarded. It is time for you to create some new beginnings for yourself!<p>
God bless, oh Queen of Plan A.<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Terri,
I missed this post earlier as well.<p>You are the best.<p>I've missed our long chats and missed you. Your H truly has a slipped gear to let you go.<p>Wishing you well.<p>Love,

Terri,<p>Just another later comer, that missed the first post. I am sorry it has come to this, but I suspect you are glad to have the closure. Just remember: "The best revenge is a life well lived."<p>Enjoy your life Terri.<p>God Bless,<p>JL

I have to follow JL and K.....<p>sheesh, when we prodigal ones show up, we do so en masse....<p>{{{{{{{{{{{Terri}}}}}}}}}}}<p>it's all been said, wished and hugged....I can't improve upon any of it...<p>when I go to visit that friend of mine this spring, I'll e-mail you, as I have to come and look you up...<p>
you sound good, you sound strong... your courage has taken you far...for your sake, I hope the 'closure' happens soon...<p>as professorg would have said:<p>MONDO HUGS!!!!!!!!<p>love you, Terri...
always thinking of you....<p>
Dylan