Why oh why can't I keep my mouth shut.
Okay first a little background.<p>My W has had an A starting in Oct 2000. She asked me to move out in Feb 2001. After much heartache on both of our behalves, she said that she wanted to see if we can make it work. That was Oct 2001. We had a good couple of weeks, but the affection stopped because of some behavior that my W didn't like (I got suspicious of her). We went ahead and moved back in together in Nov 2001. Still no affection. And I can't keep my mouth shut - when something bothers me, I start an argument and throw out all of the details that I know about of the A. Trust me it doesn't do anything for repairing the marriage. <p>Well for the first time in a long time, my W asked for me to cuddle with her. Later that day, she was (as it turns out) depressed about all the things that she has on her plate right now (normal life things). But did I let her - NO!!! I have to accuse her of feeling guilty about cuddling and thinking about OM. Why can't I keep my mouth shut!!<p>I don't know if anyone else is in the same predicament - but please learn from me. Confrontation is NEVER good when the relationship is so fragile. I need to be thankful for what I have and for the progress (no matter how minor) that we are showing. One of these days I'll learn. I just hope that it happens before I lose her for good.<p>I love my W and need to recognize what I need to do (or not do) in order to keep the baby steps moving forward.