Okay, I changed my ID from “J.R.” to this… just in case WW is watching…<p>So, let’s look at the following points:<p>- WW and I recently came back from a trip “back home” to see our families. She was keen on checking her e-mail frequently while away. She changed her e-mail password, I just recently found it – guess what? – no e-mails from OM since September. (If there were any, trust me, she’d have kept them.) I find it a bit odd, but I guess they see each other frequently during the weekdays. Phone records tend to indicate occasional phone calls to him, but only sporadically and for a few minutes at a time.
- Just after we got back, WW really “opened up” to me – admitted that much of her anger towards me was there subconsciously to push me away, make me make the decision to leave, etc. Called me her best friend, admitted how great I’ve been to her, asked herself why she’s acting to stupid, etc.
- Tuesday evening she was super-late. Wednesday morning, she was unusually affectionate – lots of kisses, attention, notable sexual tension for a few days prior, etc.
- Wednesday evening, she was back to being cold, angry and bitter. She’s back to attacking me, I feel – anything she can invent. She says that she wishes she didn’t have to go see IC today. She “hates everybody and everything.”<p>I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again – I hate to analyze things, or infer any expectations. But to play along, if I were a betting man, I’d suspect:<p>- Things with OM are not as solid as she’d like to believe (maybe OM is freaked out by her stalker mentality - ?)
- She’s swinging like a pendulum, harder and harder (the farther she swings one way, she harder she seems to come back the other way)<p>Sigh… You know, I’m getting really sick of this. It’s SOOO clear to me that Plan B is going to be needed. She simply refuses to pull her head out of her butt, as she herself describes it. She acknowledges changes / incredible potential, she says things like “you’re so great”, etc. – so that’s no longer an issue – she knows she’s acting irrationally, she admits it at times – just can’t help herself – truly an addict.<p>Remind me again… it’s something like 75% of folks who end up resorting to Plan B, right? For other Plan B’ers out there, how long did it take you to prepare? (How much time / work is involved in preparing for legal separation in California?)<p>I've never intended Plan A to go more than 6 months. It's 4.5 now. I realize I will need some time to prepare.<p>J.R.
