Hi Jo. I think your xSIL had good intentions, but they kind of got mixed up somewhere down the line. Some of the things were just downright insensitive given your current situation, and because she has not been that close, she probably just didn't even realize what she was doing!<p>Unfortunately, I think you are going to have to sever ties with her in order to heal. I'm sure you can do this very nicely via an email.<p>Hugs,
HbH

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by worthatry:
<strong><p>Hiya L. Hmmmmmm. We shouldn't be surprised at this. (We DEFINITELY aren't surprised about the Jo part - I'm refering to the part about OW's er, colorful vocabulary.) <p>The OP's HAVE to be vastly different, don't they? Otherwise, why would the WS be attracted to them? They have to be different from what the WS is leaving - the BS. It's not the OP's "good" qualities that attract our WSs, it's their "different" qualities - good or bad, as you two have learned in spades. <p>Am I right?<p>Dave<p>]</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Yep WAT,<p>Sure does sound like it. Kinda goes back to Jo's other thread about the WS having the A because they are angry. <p>Think an angry WS wants to see a happy contented BS or at least one trying to move on and make a better life for themselves? I think not. Not even in the fog. <p>Kinda the instinctive, 'if I'm going to be miserable, so are you' theory. Whether he realizes it or not, that is what it looks like. All that withdrawal stuff, even the backwards slide after months or years of recovery always keeps the BS on edge. <p>Do we want to be on edge that long? Should we? Hm...... <p>L.<p>[ January 14, 2002: Message edited by: Orchid ]</p>