I had to appear in court this week for a temporary support hearing for the ww. She looked so good and I even asked her if she wanted to sit with me. You can guess the answer. My lawyer slamed ww with the A charge and then her lawyer read my income tax form infront of a packed court room. every redneck and laywer from our town must have been there. We have been leaders in our church and town so it was very embarassing. I know I am fighting for my very survival now but I still care for ww and can't bear to see her ripped in open court. We meet for depositions this week for the final trial in Feb. I am going to try to give ww enough money so we can end it. I had hoped to drag it out but am afraid to let a judge decide my future. She made me pay nearly 1000 per week without even listening to our side. I have 2 sons in college and the other at home. Ww didn't even send them a card at Christmas/If someone would have told me a year ago my life would turn out like this, I would have said they were insane.

Dear pace,<p>I can only imagine how painful the court appearance was for you. I am familiar with your earlier posts. Sadly, it seems like your W had her mind made up a long time ago. I'm sorry that you are at this point. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing. <p>Estes

I feel your sorrow. I hope and pray that I don't have to go through what you are going through. <p>I don't really have much to add, but the fact that your D papers were served on 9/11/01 at 9:00am. That is the same date that my W had her first meeting with the OM since they were HS sweethearts. I really hate that day, but for different reasons than most.<p>You are in my thoughts...<p>JABH
Just Another Betrayed Husband

JABH: What do you think of everytime you hear the Sept 11 date on the news? I am reminded of the crude paper server shoving legal documents in my face in my waiting room at the office. We had all beemn in the lounge watching the news and saw all of the sufering in NY city. My ww has such a vivid imagination! I met with my lawyer this week to make a cash settlement with her. I should get the answer the first of next week. I had hoped to drag things out but the judge awarded her such a high monthly support(from me) that I can't stand much more of this and stay afloat. My banker has put togher a plan for me to borrow a huge sum to pay her but i know in my heart- she is going to want much more. Anger and greed plus a big city lawyer rule ww's life now.

Wow, sorry for the delay in responding. I have not been checking these threads like I should be.<p>You ask what I think of everytime I hear 9/11. The attacks took place that morning, and my W was having breakfast with OM. First face-to-face in about 13 years. I cringe when I think of it. She was feeling neglected by me (somewhat justified unfortunately) and I can just imagine him leeching his way into her heart that morning.<p>Nothing physical happened that day, that was to happen a couple weeks later, but that first day.... *SIGH*.<p>So how is it going for you? You message mentions dates in late January / February timeframe.