He never left. He actually came out of the fog pretty fast. And he was really quick about separating himself from her. It was an EA that freaked him out when she started asking questions that were waaaayyyyy too personal. <p>I, on the other hand, freaked out long and hard - she had been considered my best friend. But when I insisted on some space between her and my husband, she showed her true colors - victim, misunderstood, mean, and nasty manipulations to make out that I was crazy to think she wanted anything more than friendship out of my husband. <p>Took me a year to get to the point where rehabilitating the friendship was not an option. She had been hacking at me in "recovery" rooms on-line and by e-mail. I blocked her from sending to that e-mail addy, and then got a new one. But when a common friend to both of us forwarded an email to a long list of people which included both the OW and me, she proceeded to figure out which e-mail address was mine and violated our no contact policy on the ploy that our mutual friend was suicidal. On the one hand I was glad to know so that I could help. But I was really steamed that this woman thought that she had the right to invade my privacy for ANY reason.<p>I finally decided this needed some public exposure. I confronted the issue in one of the recovery rooms, and since her e-mail addy was blocked from my new e-mail address, she couldn't counter without it being public. She still used a "private message" software to minimize the exposure. I warned her that I would not be reading any more of her crap and that I would ask the trusted servants of that board to delete her messages if she ever responded to my posts again, since I had made it clear that I wanted no such contact. She got vile, I am told, but I didn't read it. <p>So far, there have been no more attempts at contacting me and I have slowly been coming out of my raging. My husband has been very patient with my thirst for vengance - grateful that I recognized that he wasn't trying to continue a relationship with her. <p>He quit using ALL recovery boards except one. I believe she is posting there under a different name, but we both recognize the personality - believing that it's an identical twin if it's not her. Right down to her spelling and grammer. <p>***************************<p>Tomorrow he begins a new free-lance job, working in partnership with the sports trainers/coaches, physical therapists and chiropractors for one of the Olympic teams. He is walking on air. And he's nervous. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that this goes well for him and he gets to realize that he is valued and appreciated.<p>[ January 16, 2002: Message edited by: KaylaAndy ]</p>
