I am a husband who betrayed his wife, back in 1988. If you go back and read my story, it will give you some insight.<p>In a nutshell, I had an affair, was caught and thought we had it all behind us until last year. It came to the surface and nearly destroyed us. I came here a few times and asked for help. I hated having to read that I had to be honest with the detailed questions she was asking, 13 years later. Questions she didn't ask back in 1988. After separating, counseling and lots of sleepless nights I have learned quite a bit.<p>I finally came through and have been 100% honest with my wife. She had questions that she wanted answeres to that were to hard to face. I learned that it was the only way. Somehow we are on the other side now. I still fear that look in her eyes and I know that she has lost respect for me.<p>I learned about PTSD. That is what she was suffering from. She went into a form of denial after the initial discovery. While we spoke and had it out, she somehow buried it. I learned that it was going to come out someday, and did it ever. Today, she is learning to forgive me. It makes me sick to see my beautiful wife suffering for a huge error in judgement I did 14 years ago. <p>I want to thank those of you who I have read about these past months. It took your stories for me to realize that my holidng back answers was the cause of all the distress and hurt. It was the single most horrifying thing I have ever had to face. Her questions and me having to answer them in detail. I learned it was necessary.<p>I came here as a husband who has been on the lying side of these affairs. I want you all to know how much you have helped me and my wife somehow find firm footing again.
