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after withdrawal ends should someone wait to go to counseling?
and how do you know if WD is over if H won't talk about it? I am one of those impatient, want everything to happen now people and he keeps telling me he needs time, will go to the counselor next month but is somewhat noncommittal about it. Should I just drop it for awhile and let certain things happen naturally? He is being much more affectionate and caring but I think he is stuffing his feelings about the OW because he doesn't want to feel the pain and he doesn't want to hurt me. I just want to get everything out in the open and deal with it, but he gets upset anytime I want to talk about our relationship. So, any advice would be appreciated. I feel stuck.
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You need to respect your H request for time and space.<p>I suggest you go back and read the info on withdrawl, you will find most of the answers there that you need. I am sure that there are others that have been in your sitaution or one similiar that will find there way here and post some advice till then you might want to read.<p>Patience is the one thing that us BSer's have one our side. It's not easy but necessary!!<p>Best Wishes,
Dawn
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Your alias says it perfectly. That is what your husband needs right now. He needs for you to walks slowly, day by day. I don't know enough about how long the A was, whether it was EA, PA or both (you may want to add that to your signature but the intensity of the A can contribute to the length of your H's WD. <p>You are at the beginning of a very hard road. Read about Plan A and live it. Leave relationship discussions alone for now. Daybreak is right. Be patient. Pray. Work on yourself.
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