I am currently in Plan A and IC with Steve Harley. WH will not talk to him until he is sure that he wants to work on the marriage. My story is a long one and I will try to give a short history before I ask my question. D-day was 3/9/2001. I did not take things well at all and was a complete mess. One good thing I did do was get S. Harley's number from a friend who found this site trying to help me while I could not help myself. Steve did his best to help me with plan a, but all my attempts for two months ended up with me crying and begging my WH to fix the marriage with me. Well we all know how well that worked. Thus, my move to plan b in May 2001. S. Harley realize that if my marriage would ever have a chance he had to get me to move to plan b. <p>After a few months of plan b I temporarily lost my mind, thought I was falling in love with someone I barely knew (never slept with him and he lives in another state) and called my WH and told him that I thought he was going to file for D and where were that papers. Well those phone calls went back and forth until late in October. He had found out from a friend of mine that there might be someone else, noticed that I had lost 80 pounds and all of the sudden thought that he needed time to think things over. He told me that he knew that it was not fair to ask me to wait any longer for him to figure out how he felt but that he was confused. <p>Well that brought me out of my insanity. I had not been to this site in months, I had lost all hope of saving my marriage and just did not care, until I heard him say those words. Well talk about a 180. I reread SAA, read Divorce Remedy, got back on this site, called S. Harley and for the first time since D-day felt like I had a chance. During all of the craziness I will admit that I changed. I changed a lot and guess what WH noticed. Steve and I decided that Plan A done right might just work. So that is what I have been doing since the end of November. <p>WH and I have spent a lot of time together. We have gone to the movies, gone to dinner, talked, laughed and we are currently working on our house. We were going to sell it, but I am moving back in this weekend. OP is still in the picture, but he now says that our marriage is an option to him now. She knows he is helping with the house, but has no idea that we are doing other things as well. <p>Now for my question. Before starting plan a I was scheduled to go to New York for work for seven weeks (coming home every other weekend) starting February 3, 2002 and I am committed to go. I can not get out of the assignment and I am looking for any ideas of how to plan a from there. After this trip I will not have to travel anymore, but I can not get out of this one. I have always traveled with my job and until two years ago it was never a problem. As long as WH and I had a healthy sex life he was ok when I traveled. He missed me when I was gone and things were great when I came back. We talked for hours on the phone and several times a day while I was gone. However a couple of years ago things went bad with our intamacy. I was heavy when we met, but lost 70 pounds for the wedding. After the wedding little by little I put that back on and more. I became very unhappy with how I looked and instead of working it off, I got worse and did not feel like being intimate. Since D-day I have lost 80 pounds and now WH and I are very intimate. He told me that he has a very hard time keeping his hands off of me. Two of his top EN are SF and an attractive spouse. <p>If anyone has ideas of how I can keep him interested while I am gone and how to plan a long distance, please help me. Sorry this is so long, but I thought the background was important. <p>Thanks
