This past weekend, my H woke up in the morning and asked if I will ever forgive him. I told him I could. He was very depressed all day. That night, he sat down with tears in his eyes and told me he found out the OW had been lying to him all the time they were seeing each other. He had started a week or so ago picking up on some things she had said and did some checking and found that she had been lying about numerous things. I told him it was okay and he said I have no idea. Up until that point, he had said it was just an emotional affair. I asked him if there was more and he just looked at me and cried. He said he could never live with the guilt of what he had done to me. I told him I did not want to know details and he said that was fine. He became so distraught that I had to forget about what I was feeling and comfort him. He was worried that I would never forgive him or that God could never forgive him. I worked on calming him down and told him I have forgiven him. Yes it hurts, but I love him and the important thing is that it is over and we work on our marriage. He had previously said he loved me but wasn't in love with me. That night he said he was just confused and didn't know what he felt at that time. He said I am the love of his life and he was definitely in love with me. He said he never wanted to leave me, but was caught up in something he didn't know how to get out of. He thanked me for not giving up on him and still loving me. He thinks I am incredible that I could forgive him for what he has done. I told him we should look positively (if possible) at this that it could be a turning point in our marriage and now we can work on making it better than ever. He said he definitely wants that. He is being completely open about the entire thing and said he would answer any questions I may have. Since the OW is a co-worker, he has told his boss and a guy whom she is friends with to assist in ending the relationship so she doesn't make a scene or keep trying to lure him back. I truly believe everything he has said to me. Throughout this time he acted like a completely different person that I didn't know. He is now back to the person I had known for 16 years. He said it felt good to be out of this nightmare. He is still struggling with some feelings he had for her and can't wait until they are gone, but at least he is honest about it. He actually said he wanted to talk to me about it so I can help him.<p>My question, however, is how do you get rid of the visions in your head of things he and the OW did or said to each other. Overall, I am okay with everything he has told me, but every so often I picture them somewhere together. This is the reason I told him I didn't want to know the details of what he had done, but the visions are still in there. Is this something that will just take time to go away? <p>Thanks.<p>Hurt And Afraid