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Cali---<p>I didn't want to steal your thread so I am posting this here. <p>You said:<p>"H and I have always had bedtime issues. He's always been one for falling asleep in front of the TV... didn't usually get into bed until the wee hours... I took this very poorly over the course of our marriage that he didn't want to 'come to bed w/ me.'"<p>Ok--I had the same problem...that is, W always headed off to bed...said don't stay up too late, thenw ould come out to the living room to get me and a lot of times I was into something or, yeah fell asleep in front of the TV or whatever and we didn't end up going to bed at the same time.<p>I never thought of it as a big deal...<p>Is it?<p>Why? <p>Gotta go, but this kind of struck me so wanted to drop a short note....<p>thanks for your input...<p>E
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I've really been thinking about the 'why' this was such an issue for me...<p>I 'took' it as a slight... though he always said it wasn't. He always had an 'excuse/reason.' Was watching something... his stomach hurt (has reflux) etc. <p>I just felt lonely and isolated... I wanted him to want to be with me... and no matter how I tried to explain how I felt... he just started to see it as control...<p>Cali
(ps. you can 'steal' my thread anytime [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] )
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