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It seems like a lot of betrayed Hs have been hearing this phrase. I find it so hard that WW can still love OM despite them lieing and cheating on their W and in my case him dumping her. If our wives loved us once and we were close friends, why are they so unwilling to try to save a marriage especially when young children ae involved. I have made every effort to show her that i will meet her EN for affection and she even said she believes me but she cant committ because she still loves him. Last weekend, I found Loestrin, a BC pill, in her cupboard and both the OM & I have had a vasectomy. I haven't confronted her with this yet, but there are so many things here that are hard to understand. Is she planning on being promiscous to make herself feel better? Build her self-esteem? [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img]
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Hmmm.. curious indeed.<p>Are you sure about OM having a vascetomy?<p>Hard call on what the real motives are with the BC. If you're right and OM has had it, it would seem that her loyalty to him is rather questionable - a nice start to the breakdown of their relationship!!
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Angling, I take Loestrin myself, but not for BC--I have very irregular cycles. Could it possibly be that there is some other reason for your wife as well? [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Rose Red
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Rose Red, how are old are you, I know a personal question but is there a target range in age for Loestrin? She didn't tkae it when she was home (she now has her own house) and I don't recall her mentioning an irregular cycle, but for me to stay positive, I have to believe shes doing it for supressive therapy. When the time is right, I'll ask. <p>J.R. Ya his wife told me he had a Vas in 1994 so I do beleive the contact is over between them except her loving him forever crap, but I don't want her to go out and be promiscuos for her self esteem either.
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THere are loads of reasons for bc, and stress causes irregular cycles... and maybe even hormonal regulaion, etc.<p>hugs, honey
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I have to admit I haven't heard this EXACT statement - "I'd be cheating you if I came back into the marriage" - or seen it described here on the forum, but it is certainly comparable to other bizarre statements well documented in the "script." May I use it in my book manuscript nearing completion?<p>Pure twisted logic. Take it as such and don't try to make sense out of it because it is non-sensical.<p>I compare it to my wife's reason for moving out of the house: "I had to leave because you kept threatening to. It was your decision NOT to leave."
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