Wow. I LOVE this place. Everytime I can't figure something out, there you all are to clear my own fog and shine a bright light. <p>I decided, out of the blue, to ring my H tonight and ask if he wanted to see a movie. Figured he would probably say no because one night a week seems to be our norm. To my surprise, he said "yeah, sure!". He said he would ring me later as he was busy at work. Cool.<p>Well, later, I got a text message saying he couldn't make it because he had "things to sort out". I blew it off and wasn't really disappointed, but decided to ring him to joke about him standing me up and let him know I was cool with it. He sounded a bit guarded on the phone, so I just kept cheerful and happy and said that I would find someone else to go to a movie with. <p>15 minutes later, H rang back. Asked if I had found anyone else to go to the movies with; I said I hadn't started making calls yet. His tune changed and he suggested I come over to his house, get a take-away and go to the pub. I said it sounded great and off I went. <p>We had SUCH a nice time! Despite having 5 minutes to glam up, I managed to look fab and sexy when I showed up at his door. He had said on the phone that he wanted to be in bed by 10 as he was tired. We ended up staying at the pub until it closed because we were laughing, talking and having great conversation. <p>Back to his house we went so I could phone a taxi. As I waited for the cab to show up, I bent down to look at his DVD's. I guess my shirt lifted up a bit at the back because he said, "when did you start wearing thong underwear? I thought you didn't like them?" I smiled and said, "Well, I love them now." <p>Guess that was enough to send him over the edge. I heard the taxi pull up outside at that point, grabbed my coat and said "bye!" really chirpy. As I headed out the door, he asked if he could have a hug. I said of course - but rather than hug me, he slipped his arms around my waist under my coat and planted the biggest most passionate kiss on me. I returned it for a bit, then pulled away and said, "taxi is waiting. See you later". And off I went. <p>He called after me "see you next week? I mean, that's if you want." I turned around, smiled and said, "I always want to see you, honey." <p>He stood at the door smiling and waving as I drove away.<p>Oh.
My.
God.<p>What do you think?<p>love,
VE

um well now im jealous! sound like you really had fun! now how to sustain the interest and get that dyke to LB!!!! <p>gotta tell you you sound fun and sexy in this post, cant believe he's not getting that from you when your like that!<p>good going!

Perhaps I got too excited too soon. Must keep reminding myself not to have any expectations. <p>Fact is, HE chased me last night. HE kissed me last night. HE is the jealous one, not me. (And that is the truth because I know OW and she's nothing to be jealous of). HE has been frantically tracking me down since New Year's Day. HE wants to see me next week. <p>So why on earth is he running up to her house this weekend? I wish just some small bit of all this would make sense. <p>Feeling a bit crap tonight, people. Could use a boost and reassurance that I'm doing well and my Plan A is good. Or maybe I'm not doing well? Maybe my Plan A sucks? Based on my story (which some of you follow, some of you don't) and my WH's behaviour towards me, what do you think?<p>Thanks everyone.
VE

I've never posted to you before, but have been following your story, Venus. You think your plan A sucks????? You are doing a pristine plan A, and it is working. Your H is noticing the changes in you and is liking what he sees--including thong underwear [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>You are an inspiration to many on these boards. Keep up the great work and keep posting. It's stories like yours that keep me motivated. <p>Best of Luck to you!!

Venus I think I told you before if you handle this right you will have success.<p>You might pick up a few pointers for what worked for me on this thread where I answered some questions abt my saga:<p>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=014880<p>It is a critical time when the WS is chasing you again. You really need to handle it carefully. Do not just fall back in his arms. Make him work for it!<p>When my H was in the "right" place that he needed to be for us to get back together and for it to LAST, he ended all contact with EA on HIS OWN...I did NOT tell him to, in fact I told him it was good for him to have friends. His answer was, "I do not want you EVER to have to worry about EA, so I am ending it."<p>Carol

Thanks for support, Hurtinginil - definitely need it tonight. Not feeling very confident or particularly inspirational.<p>Carolkh - Wow. What an amazing story. Funny thing is, I'm seeing a lot of what I've been doing in there! I have noticed that when I keep certain bits of info from my H, his mind spins. Like when I go out, and he asks who with, I usually say "friends" and then change the subject. Keeps him wondering. Thank you for sharing that with me. Truly inspirational. <p>I wish the weekend was over.<p>love,
VE

I just had to say [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I have so much fun reading your posts! Wish I could have read them last year, so I'd know how to do an AWESOME Plan A!!!<p>Don't question; just take it as it comes. You are doing the BEST job you can.<p>MOM