Was posting on divorce/divorcing, but suggested I come here instead.<p>Past threads are there.Too much typing to reapeat.
Not sure what he is doing...found more evidence of OW...but nothing concrete...paper work.
He has been pleasant, drove me to work today, said he would be home for dinner...around 830..not here yet, but thats not unusual for him.<p>I would just lkie to be able to cope better with the uncertainty of my future with him Dont know if he is making plans to leave in FEb or if he is rethinking things..just acting nice..cos he doesnt want any hassle.<p>I didnt feel like even going to work today...too much...but did anyhow...its a lot of responsibilty this job...hope I can handle it with all thats going on here. <p>Wondering also what to tell the kids...I know they sense something is not right. My daughter is really pushing the issue....doesnt want him to hurt me, hes never home etc etc. Didnt know really what to say. I dont know whats going on really, so what am I supposed to tell them.<p>This is such a lot of work....I sure hope it pays off. Discouraging, and its such a sureal feeling I get...kind of like I am dreaming all this...and its NOT really happening.
Any advice...as to how to read him better, and keep me on track.
Thanks, take care all

Kathy,<p>I haven't read your posts in DD, but I will. All I can really say is to read everything on this site, and probably implement a Plan A (on yourself- really read and understand the concepts of Plan A.... it has little to do with your spouse). Also, if you're having trouble going to work, you might want to talk to your Dr about anti-depressant medication... I know that many people are INCREDIBLY resistent to that idea, but believe me when I say they've saved my life.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>This is such a lot of work....I sure hope it pays off. <hr></blockquote><p>If you follow the Harley principles and implement the best Plan A on yourself that you can, then it absolutely will. You may not save your marriage, but you'll save yourself.<p>Please take care.
Kev

Kathy, sorry you are here but welcome, I'd recommend reading Plan A and would second the anti D. I just started on them on MOnday and although it will take 4-6 weeks to start working, I wish I would have earlier. One thing that might help is to do some snooping to validate your concerns. Hitting the redial button, checking emails, pants pockets, etc. the more you can find the better to confront him and try to get him to stop if he is having an A. Good luck!

ditto kev and angling - i don't know your story, but if your H is in a contining affair, this is where you need to be.<p>Get with Plan A and post here. If your daughter has things figured out and is sympathetic with you, leave her to her own devices to work on your H. Please don't use her for your ends, but allow her to seek her own ends. She is your advocate.<p>WAT