I have a question for any and every BS, Did your WS avoid talking ? I have been trying to have a discussion since last Saturday and she told me we would talk this week. The only day (because of work) that could have happened was Wednesday, and she did not ask to talk ( just regular small talk) . I suspect very strongly that contact has been reestablished ( please refer to recent post for details). I even found an ATM receipt from a machine less that a mile from his house. Saturday she said we would talk this week ( turn the TV off and talk she said) The satellite even went out that night and still no discussion.
I need to ask about the contact this weekend. what's the best way to begin this if you know someone is avoiding talking to you with out a bunch of LB's ?

Mark--I read a couple of your past posts and it sounds like IMVHO, that she's still at her games. I don't mean to open wounds by any means, but your last posts a few days ago, she was washing panties, douching, wearing new panties etc, etc. <p>Been there done that. My WS was doing the same thing when she was still living here and it drove me bonkers. I'm not sure what YOUR individual issue(s) are/were that you have worked on in Plan A but you say you have been Plan A'ing for a year. That's commendable, but a long time.<p>I have to ask at what stage have you thought about going to Plan B?? I don't wish that upon anyone but at some point, self-preservation becomes a factor for all BS's. <p>To answer your question about contact--if you are in a TRUE, BY THE BOOK Plan A, then asking isn't really supposed to be an option. I've been in that situation and honestly say to hell with it and asked anyway. As with many of us, I was checking voicemails and watching cell phone activity. That in itself confirmed that her contact hadn't ended.<p>I hope your situation gets better. I suppose that is about the only thing that was good about my WS moving out was I didn't have to see all of the crap she was doing (new panties, new clothes, perfect feminine hygiene all the time etc).<p>God Bless,<p>Guido

Guido,<p>Thanks for responding. to Answer some of your questions I do not think any contact had been reestablished until early December so that is why I have not gone to Plan B. I am this close to passing Plab B and heading to Plan D court.
What do you do if they lie to you? what if they deny it, do I then confront with all the circumstantial evidence . I am not sure.

I agree that 1 year of Plan A is a long time. I am by no means an expert on Plan A/Plan B, hopefully someone else here has some good insight. My only question is: Are you ready to move to Plan B? Remember that Plan B is not about forcing WS into making a decision, its about keeping the love you have left intact. I feel like maybe you are thinking about Plan B as a way to manipulate WS.<p>I don't think that skipping Plan B to go to D would do anyone, especially you, any good. Your concerns about continued contact could be addressed in the Plan B letter (I think)

I have a plan B letter ready to roll and I am not trying to manipulate anyone. I am just trying to find a way to deal with someone who is not communicating. I am ready for the consequences of Plan B. I am just trying to protect what love I have for her. I am tired and I am willing to continue to work but I have to know the truth. Id they are not honest what do you do ?