Honey,
I lurk on your posts alot, it seems that our situations are very similar. Thank you for asking some good questions, and thanks to everyone else for such direct answers. Take care, Honey!

Hi and thanks zorweb, actually today - had the free babysitting from h, as he is sober during the day, but he is going to cut and record an album tonight, so I am happy it saved me a few dollars, but anyway....so this is good, anyway... I told H, well wish I could go and listen to your recording tonight... he sd... oh didnt know you liked to listen... anyway, I sd... well... I do.. but will be with our kids...sometime will have to get sitter... see ow has no kids... sd I love you and bye... call me tonight honey..<p>A little better than last night... thanks for input, esp. zorweb. HONEY

Hi, I took your advice in mix with my therapists zorweb... I found the therapists advice a bit hard core for my needs- although I am sure it is effective advice, because I applied a bit of his advice with yours....<p>well, I saw H on thursday night and we had nice time, stopped by to see him, and he wanted me to go to a recording studio with him to help him find it and see him play guitar... well, I could not, since I had to go to second job... so I went to work again... and then, he wanted me to come back, i did come back and hear his recording and actually styed the night since my parents had the kids this night... so then... on the next day friday, i called, and he was iffy and maybe about dinner, and then sd, well you can even come over later... since I was tired of the ifs and maybes, basically I went to dinner with friends instead who had invited me... and he got upset... since I did not call for a while... just did not call back, since he had sd... do not know if I want to do dinner, call back later..<p>Well, I was tired of this, so I went out with friends... I guess he lwaits until how he feels at the moment... or if OW or something better comes along... thisis m y take... he has not sd this, but he basically puts off decisions- on whether or not to see me, and makes NO ADVANCE PLANS> has always been a lot like this, why? Do not know! Lives for the momement.<p>OK, so I was considering comeing over with kids late to spend night- with kids... since he is watching them again today while I am at work... OS, sd no way, do not want to go to D's house, stay at our house after my dinner with friends, YS, sd same, lets go home mommy- I wanted to see H, but agreed to kids wishes, called h and sd we will not come, and he was a bit angry... could just hear grumbling voice... <p>Well, so then...I dropped kids off this morning, he acted grumpy again... like he is mad i did not follow through on last night... and he is just giving me an attitude.. but he was grumpy....who knows... I guess I am overanalyzing... I am trying to be nice,,, but whatever I do comes up as wrong,,, is that the way it is for a while?/<p>Thanks for any input on this train wreck!<p>HONEY

bump, anyone have an opinion, how am I doing, H is ok about talking to and seeing me, and I have asked not to hear about OW>.. anymore, as it is too hurtful of a topic for me... and he is better with that... since he is having trouble breaking all contact, and he says for now they are friends only, not lovers ... HA HA... he says she sent him an email... saying that in her opinion as a freind... HA HA HA... OH boy, I cannot deal with this crap anymoer... seriously... it is awful.<p>am I doing better? It is hard, I want to say... you have to fix it now, no pussyfuooting, no ow, or no chances for us...?<p>But that does not work, it drives him farther away, , whic h is extremely saddening for me... I hpoe the OW will not have the patience I do... since he is spending time with me.<p>Thanks for advice, stories, input! Thanks so much.
Thanks HONEY