It is hard. WH is moving out because I made a decision about the no -contact letter and he can't write it. WH was going to move out Mon., but the house in another town is not ready. <p>WH told sister & mom about leaving & OW. I seems to be getting easier for him as WH
tells others & his new coworkers. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] I have not told anybody yet, but our D called a friend of mine. I will call my parents tonight.
I have tried not to LB by telling about A, as to not show disrespect. I wanted him to know we could learn from the As. We will discuss now if people ask about separating.<p> I am having a hard time trying to continue Plan A while he is moving out. These next three nights I hope are not like the last two. I don't know when to keep my mouth shut I guess. We are probably soooo much closer emotionally and sf also than we have been in the last 15 years. Both of us have also say how much more we could still give each other.<p> My problem is WH says that he is missing my desire for him that he gets from the OW, not the sex, but the passion and desire for him. <p>I told him my desire for him is in trying to make our marraige work. WH has noted many of the changes that I have made and I know that I can can be more passionate and make make WH feel more desireable. WH seems okay that I have asked him to leave, but he doesn't see how continued contact effects that passion & desire. The only hard part he had was telling is immediate family.<p>WH said he didn't think it will come as a big surprise to the community. I didn't ask how he thought it would effect his business contacts. Most people here maybe suspect something, but know we have been trying to work on our marriage.
WH is thought to be of high moral character, integrity, and involved in many civic groups.<p>The thoughts creep in my head about how WH is showing me disrepect & hurting me keeps me from giving WH 100% of my sexual desire. I didn't even know this level was possible until I have made changes in myself during plan a. As long as I don't think of the OW & feel emotionally attached to WH, sf is a major improvement. This is kinda scary for me because I also feel if WH doesn't want this marriage I know that I have changed & I would not make the same mistakes again. I can go on now because I have faith that God will give me the strength, but I really do love H & want this marriage to be strengthen by surviving and changing for the better.<p>I need to get out of my conservative background I guess and just attack WH [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
I will be like OW EA & PA starved.

Believe it or not him moving out may just help your ability to Plan A. I found that the more I was around the WS the more likely I was to make huge Plan A mistakes. I even did such a bad job at Plan A I had to go to Plan B before I totally lost every feeling I had left for my WH. After a few months in Plan B, with the help of Steve Harley, I was able to start a Plan A that really seems to be getting his attention. <p>Our marrage has turned from something he was running from full speed to a good option for him. And that is from his lips not mine. I tried so hard in the beginning to spend time with him and show him that I could change that I did not give myself enough time to sit down and see what I needed to change. Stop, take a deep breath and give yourself a break. Go for a walk, go to the gym, go get a manicure. Do something to make you feel good. Then re-evaluate where you are and what you want. When you decide that, set up a plan. What is the best way to get what you want? For me I wanted my WH back and better than ever. How would I get that? I decided it would be to be better than ever myself. I started going to the gym, eating right, dressing nice even to go to run quick errands. I felt better about myself and Plan A has been a lot easier since I started doing those things.<p>I also found that when I started feeling better about myself the desire for my WH came back 10 times stronger than even when we were dating. Do you think he has noticed that, YOU BET. Don't push the feelings or he will notice they are not real. Do something to make yourself feel pretty and that will show through and hopefully will impact things with you and your WH.<p>Just some thoughts. I hope it makes sense.