You replied to my post "are there any WS's out there...." You said help my H realise the images, in his head, aren't real. PLease explain this to me. I understand he doesn't really know exactly what me & OM did, But he does know we had a sexual relationship. How do I convince him the images are not real? I guess this is something I can't understand, being the WS, but I would like to understand it. Thanks!<p>Chelle96

I think it depends on how much you've shared together, how much he knows about the A. For me, the images I keep having run through my mind are sketchy but they revolve around her. The look on her face, content as she's wrapped in another's arms, expression as she is in the throes of passion, her speaking his name and sharing the things as we used to do.<p>It's got alot to do with what the two of you have shared together, things you've done or tried. It's hard to express how it makes my stomach queezy, it makes me instantly angry. I don't know what this guy looks like but I know that he did some of the things to her that I used to. It's a bitter pill to swallow and the images are fabricated in our minds, not real. Nothing but time can help us deal with it and I don't think that I'll ever forget how it makes me feel.<p>Just some perspective from someone in the early stages of dealing with it. I can push the images away but when I'm having a bad day, they run through my mind until my heart is hammering, my stomach is roiling and I have to get up and do SOMETHING, anything to take my mind off it.